Are Black Opposite Sex Relationships Failing ?
By : Melanin Reigns
A reoccurring statement in the black community is “ black men do not see black women as human ”. However , is this a valid truth or misconstrued conditioning ? Out of 45 DMV women polled via social media , 83 % percent complained opposite sex friendships are failing . There seems to be a lack of value for the other aspects of women in general , but black women say they are plagued by this disconnect more . My question to black men is this , do you ever see a black woman as your sister / daughter / mother first before lusting for her sexual organs ? Or have we all fallen victim to society ’ s conditioning to use people and love things ? 95 % of relationships would be more successful if they began as friendships . Foundations built on friendships allows communication to flow more efficiently , and enables you to learn what a person is reflecting to you . This is not a one sided argument , black men have complained that women do not set the standard but holst ample expectations .
Out of 45 DMV men polled via social media 87 % reported feeling misused for financial and beneficiary purposes , when building friendships with women . Chioma Unde of Hampton University explains “ Even when you approach a woman with good intentions and deal with her friend zoning you , she begins to overstep boundaries and expect you to do the things her main man should be doing for her .” He ends his statement by saying “ women do not have good choosing skills , this is why the man must lead , he is the chooser and she can only be chosen . Gender roles still hold importance in my eyes .”
Although misogyny is the stamp most women will put on Chioma ’ s statement , look at it from a bird ’ s eye view , that is the reality of many of our brothers . My question to black women is , are we reflecting the very lack of value and greed that our men now place upon our bodies ? If so , what are we ( black women & men ) doing to fix our relationships in our everyday lives ?
Most of our challenges with the opposite sex spawns from childhood scars in which either the masculine or feminine vessel ( mother / father ) in our lives sets the tone for . Trace the root of your issues , it is a shared responsibility when things do not go as planned . Embrace the journey , experience one another freely .
Take your time with friendships , situationships , relationships etc . there ’ s no need to make a permanent enemy out of a temporary situation . We are all healing , so be mindful of that . Peace , power and prosperity .
Don ’ t exercise your freedom of speech until you have exercised your freedom of thought .
Tim Fargo
The Audacity of White Privilege :
Part 1 | By Michelle Reed
White privilege extends beyond the economic status of people in the United States . Black people die at the hands of officials or neighbors with impunity . Most of these deaths are blacks who haven ’ t committed a crime or didn ’ t do anything that requires being pinned to the ground and shot in the chest . Social and mass media continuously assassinate the characteristics of the African American community . There is a record of the modern and historic agenda against blacks and the most eloquent rebuttal most white people can come up with is “ I matter too ?” They blatantly type out their unwillingness to educate themselves about the history this country sits on , but insists “ Black Lives matter ” is a hate group .
“ Colored served in the rear ” “ All lives matter ” circles consist of the traditional mindsets of supremacist values . Naturally slavery gave white race the mentality of control and entitlement . Jim Crow stipulations have supported that mentality through generations . A black person wasn ’ t even allowed to reach out to shake the hand of a white person . Other stipulations that could result in the death of blacks include :
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Insinuating a white person could be lying . »»
Making comments on the exterior of a white person . »»
Displaying superior knowledge or intelligence of a white person .
When blacks displayed bravado , intellect , or self-respect , they faced brutality . One of the most historic cases that assisted in sparking black uprising , was Emmett Till . He was a 14 year old from Chicago that was brutally beaten and shot to death for whistling at a white woman in 1955 . Mind you , white men and women of that era did far worse to blacks regularly . The audacity of whites thinking he deserved such a death for allegedly whistling at a white woman .
The master complex … There ’ s a mentality that “ niggers shouldn ’ t talk back to their master ” that fuels the “ All lives matter ” circles . Society has taught them that sense of entitlement . They don ’ t seek justice for anything and they ’ re open about their lack of knowledge . Black leader ’ s present truth that contains modern and historical issues against the community , but a large number of white people are illegitimately offended by BLM . All lives matter ? Since when ?
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