2. Forgive past hurts.
If you have been feeling alone for a while, chances are you have been harboring some hurt. Nothing breeds loneliness more than unforgiveness. You need to make the decision to forgive.
3. Do the hard work to rebuild connection.
Do not assume your marriage is doomed. You can reconnect with each other. It will take some time and effort but it can be done.
4. Be patient.
Both you and your spouse will have to learn to use some “connection muscles” you haven’t exercised for a while and habits take a while to break.
5. Take the iniative.
If you’re lonely, chances are your partner is too. Initiate conversations that are not about transactional details. Ask them for their views about something they care about and make sure to show them you’re listening.