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cknowledge the loss. Sometimes it can be seemingly less awkward to not talk about the loss, especially if you feel uncomfortable or don’t know how to express your sympathy. However, it’s important to acknowledge the loss, offer sympathy and let your friend or loved one know you’re there. For example, “I’m so sorry for your loss. I know you loved [person’s name] and I’m here if you need to talk”.
t’s ok to not know what to say. Remember that your friend or loved one is experiencing a variety of emotions and you may not totally understand how they feel or know what to say. The important thing in this situation is that you’re there and willing to listen, reassure and comfort them.
void saying certain things. Knowing what to say (or not to say!) can be stressful. Don’t say things like “you just need to be strong” or minimizing the situation by saying it’s “for the best." Rather, be a source of encouragement!
tay in touch. Don’t wait for them to reach out to you. Check on your friend or loved one often and show you want to help or listen when the person grieving needs you.
ake plans together. Even if they don’t want to talk, simply being there or planning something fun to do can help them readjust to normal life. Try doing something creative like painting, going on a hike, getting dinner or going to a concert.
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