Look at them first, as a tragedy. Realize that some people will never change even after you offer forgiveness. They will remain obnoxious, mean-spirited, uncaring, or unreliable. For your own sake, forgive and change the way you respond to them and quit expecting
Make the choice to have compassion on your violator.
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Make the decision to surrender.
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Let go of your
deep desire to
get even with the person who has violated you. Come up with a prayer or statement announcing your
decision. Here’s an example: "By an act of my will, and God’s power, I give up my rights to get even with (insert name). I make a commitment that when these negative feelings come over me again, I will release them. I won’t babysit them. I admit the feelings are real, but I choose not to be controlled by them any longer."
them to be different. Maybe you can even pray for them or someday even reach a point where you can wish them well.