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How to Forgive
To begin with, don’t be pressured into false forgiveness. This needs to be your choice when you are ready. When you feel obligated to forgive or you forgive so others will still like you, it's not true forgiveness — it's a performance to avoid rejection. Maybe all you can offer today is, "I want to forgive you, but right now I'm struggling. I promise I will work on it." Once you've decided you are ready, then here is how you can get started.
You can’t truly forgive until you come to terms with how deeply you’ve been hurt. With the help of a counselor, minister, or another
6 STEPS to help you get started on forgiving:
Grasp the extent of the violation that has been done against you.
professional, you need to seek to understand what happened to you when you were wronged and why it hurts so much.