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There is something to be said for righteous anger and giving yourself time to process your feelings. When someone has done you wrong, you have a right to be upset. While someone might ask you for forgiveness immediately, or while you might feel pressure to figrgive swiftly because of your beliefs, it's vital that you give yourself the time to come to terms with what has happened. When you reach the point of feeling that letting go is better for your mental health, it's time to forgive. You may not "feel" like it, because, again, you have good reason to feel hurt. But it's a choice you need to make for you.
Forgiveness means I have to revert to being the victim.
Forgiving is not saying, "What you did was okay, so go ahead and walk all over me." Nor is it playing the martyr, enjoying the performance of forgiving people without truly letting go. "Playing the victim," or simply saying that you forgive when you have not made peace in your heart and still hold a grudge, will only make your pain and resentment worse.
I must forgive immediately.
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