3. Be honest about the pain
4. Allow yourself to grieve
Some experts believe the trauma of divorce is more difficult than even the death of a loved one. With the death of a parent, the loss is complete. But with divorce, the loss seems to have no ending. You may hold onto hope your parents will get back together again. One of the worst things you can do is ignore your true feelings and tell yourself lies to seemingly help take away the pain. Suppressed or unexpressed feelings can lead to anger, depression, and even addiction.
When your parents divorce, a part of you is ripped away. Something that was so important to you is now gone. Divorce shatters the sense of security you had when there was both a father and a mother who loved each other and who would love and provide for you. There’s nothing weak about grieving.
5. Don't take sides
Be fair to both parents. If your parents are persuading you to pick their side, tell them you do not want to and share with them how being caught in the middle makes you feel. You need to be able to talk openly with both parents or spend time with each. Sometimes when a conflict arises you may feel obligated to take a side or keep the peace, but you can’t play referee or gossip to one parent about the other. It’s not fair to you.