True 2 You Premier Issue Vol. 1 issue 1 January 2014 | Page 8

Should I or Shouldn't I?...
When Should I Let My New Man Meet My
! ! ! ! ! Kid(s).
Written by: Ashley B
"Back in the good old days" is the phrase that rings in our ears every time we
speak to our elders. Whose saying that our time isn't good? Every era has it's
ups and it's downs and as the years change so do our struggles and our
fortunes.
One thing that has changed for sure is dating. In these great times of ours we
have new ways to meet people with chat lines, chat rooms and dating sites. All of
these avenues have their downsides as well. Let's face it, you have to be weary
of people that you meet in grocery stores and shopping malls but you also have
to be extra cautious with online
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dating. There are all sorts of crazy
people in this world and the Internet
enables these people to mask their true selves. In this case what if you think
you've found "the one?" or maybe your not quite sure yet but you can see a life
with this person extending into the future.
Let me paint this very realistic picture: your a single mother, your last few
relationships didn't turn out the way you thought they would for whatever reason
and now you are back in the trenches of what we often call the dreadful "dating
pool." You meet someone who you are becoming extremely fond of over the last
few months and you want to take things further. You might even be starting to fall
in love. However due to your past dating experiences and the lack of longevity
that those relationships seemed to miss you are draining your mental existence
with questions such as "is this really love? Could he really be the one? Or will he
leave like the other's?" My favorite of all time "Does he really want a relationship
or is he just using me to get in my pants?"
So after you have exhausted your brain cells and given yourself a headache with
those questions and many others you're asking yourself the most important