Treasure Magazine volume 8
before marriage does not improve or secure your relationship ; it only weakens the chances of that relationship ' s survival . I wouldn ' t doubt your love for your Dr Kingsley but I feel you must know that you really did cross so many boundaries . When there are no limits then you would have no reason to talk of trespass . Your stand and conviction wasn ' t firm enough which was why he could successfully pressure you into sleeping with him . Don ' t be saying No and yet be saying " maybe ". You must first accept that you played a part in this . Secondly I will want to say without doubt that he never loved you else he would have respected your decision and not forced himself on you . Love is patient and willing to sacrifice for good . You may probably have only told us your part of the story but somehow you sure have seen signs that you ignored . Also I will say if he really was serious about marrying you then your courtship period was relatively too long and that was one of the reasons why your relationship ended like that . I wouldn ' t dictate for anybody but long courtship could be dangerous as it increases your chances of premarital sex . What happened to you is similar to what happened between Tamar and Amnon in the Bible and I sincerely feel your pain but look dear mistakes shouldn ' t make us we must rather become better by learning from our mistakes . Pull yourself together and learn from your mistakes . Forget him
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