A Parent would never
advise their child to
fight their way
through a problem.
So why should the
story change when a
parents have are faced
with problems
Parents NEVER EVER start out and teach their
children to fight their way out of a problem. Parents
teach that child to problem solve, ask for help from others
on how to resolve their issues. Parents look at ways to
help that child reduce the problem before things got out
of control and conflict began. Parents instruct their
children in this fashion because they want to remove their
child from the potential harm caused by conflict. Parents
are simply objective enough, resilient enough, to know how
difficulty.
concerning how to
raise their children
during after their
divorce?
to get the child through
Parents must remember to practice what they preach during the divorce
process. Applying collaborative techniques in a divorce helps parent’s problem
solve. Collaboration creates an environment where each parent feels that they have an
equal say in how their child is going to being raised. Success or fail, the collaborative
experience plants a “seed” inside the mind of each parent, giving them a powerful tool
that they can use in the future to help minimize conflict.
The divorce is not the end that closes a door to an old relationship. The divorce
process is a stage that will define how parents will engage one another in the
future. Failing to see the divorce process as a transition period means that parents have
lost a valuable opportunity to develop a plan of action that will assist their “divorced
family” for years to come.
Matt Sossi is the Executive Director of Kids First Parents Second. For more information
about Kids First Parents Second visit us at www.kidsfirstparentssecond.org.