Making Changes
What do you dislike most in people?
Is it people who wind you up the wrong way? Or maybe people who don’t
agree with you and don’t see things from your point of view? Yet, isn’t that
what makes us all different, because we all have a point of view?
I recently went to a seminar in the U.K. which was designed to help in
dealing with “difficult” people. We were each asked to write down the things
that we don’t like in the people we know. At the end of copious listings from
everyone, the lecturer took the papers and asked us if any of these things
we had noted down were illegal. The answer was no.
She then asked if they were immoral. Again, the answer was no.
Were they wrong? No.
Then she said, “Well, may I just suggest to you that they are just different?”
There was stunned silence in the room as we all came to terms with that! Once again I have been
through a learning curve with that concept. I really hope that I never stop learning.
So perhaps it is worth considering that the things we get stressed most about, as far as other
people are concerned, is not that they can be blamed for being the way that they are, but we need
to accept that they are just different from us. Perhaps acceptance and tolerance is a bit thin on the
ground these days and we throw our rattles out of the pram for not having the reactions or results
we want from people! Isn’t life tough?
Whatever our problems might be, nothing material is going to solve it on a permanent basis. Why?
Material things are nice, but we get used to them and then start to look around again. The only
thing that works is achieving a balance inside. Our attitude towards everything is what is the most
important because that is who we really become and that is what people around us see.
Watch people and notice the expressions on their faces. Observe body language and try to pick
up tips about how the people you are observing are feeling. The wealthy are definitely not the
happiest, and the down at heel are definitely not all wretched. Some people wouldn’t be happy
if they had everything the world has to offer, because they are still negative inside. A couple of
years ago I had dealings with a lady who had everything - she said that herself, a fabulous home,
position, wonderful children, adoring husband, money in the bank….but she was suicidal. I had the
privilege of helping her to see life as she should be seeing it and the depression lifted so that she
was in control, she saw the point and she made the mental changes.
When we get to the stage where everything and everyone is irritating us and pulling us down,
maybe we ought to take some time to think things through and realise that, as complicated as life
is, we owe it to each other to accept each other’s differences and to realise, perhaps, that they
have accepted ours!!
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