3. You’re also a social media influencer! So cool! What tips would you give our readers on upping there insta!?
Shanelle: Well, let me preface this… First thing to up your insta is quit playing the comparison game! I have made a lot of mistakes by playing the comparison game and it’s cost me authenticity in my content and voice. I’ve even had some followers leave in the past because they felt my content wasn’t ‘representative’ of me anymore.
So the best tip I have is really just focus on posting things that speak to you! You don’t need to be everyone’s favorite, you only need to be YOUR favorite and that should be enough. Once you start focusing on having fun with social media, you’ll realize that the ‘upping your IG’ part just comes naturally!
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to Him, etc. It’s something I’m really working on. I tend to shut down when overwhelmed with any kind of emotion, but it’s nothing a good break down on your knees can’t fix.
Since my transformational moment, I’ve been pretty consistent on my Biblical and prayer regime. And if I miss time with God, I not only ask for His forgiveness, but I also forgive myself!
So, I don’t know if that really answers the question, but basically… the balance is about finding grace for ourselves when we have weak moments.
6. You’re very vocal about your devotion to staying pure till marriage. Can you tell us a little bit about your journey? Especially working in the industry! How did you stay committed?
5. How do you balance your spiritual life, and work life? You’re a busy woman, how do you do it!?
It’s honestly so hard, but I literally made a promise to God that I would start honoring Him first in the morning and last thing in the evening, every single day. I really fell off the wagon hard in the summer and felt so guilty about it. And when I feel guilty I barely even pray. During those times I often become paralyzed with my faith, I get so ridden with anxiety over not spending time with him that I stop praying, stop talking to Him, etc. It’s something I’m really working on. I tend to shut down when overwhelmed with any kind of emotion, but it’s nothing a good break down on your knees can’t fix.
Since my transformational moment, I’ve been pretty consistent on my Biblical and prayer regime. And if I miss time with God, I not only ask for His forgiveness, but I also forgive myself!
So, I don’t know if that really answers the question, but basically… the balance is about finding grace for ourselves when we have weak moments.
6. You’re very vocal about your devotion to staying pure till marriage. Can you tell us a little bit about your journey? Especially working in the industry! How did you stay committed?
Well, I dedicated my purity to God on a beach in Hawaii with my mom when I was twelve (I think?). I was old enough to understand that I didn’t want to have sex before marriage, but I don’t think I was old enough to really grasp the concept of how sexually arousing intimacy is until I had my first kiss. Still, waiting didn’t really get tough until I was around 18… possibly even 20.
I’ll be honest. It’s no walk in the park. I’m a very sexually charged person and I’m not afraid to really talk about sex either. I grew up in a family who was very open with the conversation and let me make my own choices. My mom obviously encouraged me to choose abstinence, but ultimately throughout the years… how sexual I get with a man has always been my decision. And I’ll be the first to set realistic expectations and say, of course, I have faltered in the past. But I’ve still remained pure for the home-run!
I think the biggest reason I have stayed committed though is that I really, truly want to have that first-time experience with my Husband. I want to know that God is blessing our marriage. And I want to feel comfortable and safe with someone that knows my soul before they know me sexually. I also think having parents that set guidelines but not boundaries made me less likely to rebel. So that’s always been a key factor is that they gave me trust, which has allowed me to trust myself and want to commit to that promise.
I grew up in a family who was very open with the conversation and let me make my own choices. My mom obviously encouraged me to choose abstinence, but ultimately throughout the years… how sexual I get with a man has always been my decision. And I’ll be the first to set realistic expectations and say, of course, I have faltered in the past. But I’ve still remained pure for the home-run!
I think the biggest reason I have stayed committed though is that I really, truly want to have that first-time experience with my Husband. I want to know that God is blessing our marriage. And I want to feel comfortable and safe with someone that knows my soul before they know me sexually. I also think having parents that set guidelines but not boundaries made me less likely to rebel. So that’s always been a key factor is that they gave me trust, which has allowed me to trust myself and want to commit to that promise.
want to feel comfortable and safe with someone that knows my soul before they know me sexually. I also think having parents that set guidelines but not boundaries made me less likely to rebel. So that’s always been a key factor is that they gave me trust, which has allowed me to trust myself and want to commit to that promise.
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