THRIVING Melanin Family Magazine November 2018 | Page 39

Change some things would have been best to say, but never attempt to change your spouse. You knew who they were when you married them. You may offer suggestions, or your insight into areas for self- improvement, but do not try to force them to change. Evolution is a process, trust it! Listening to your loves concern on the issues can greatly improve your marriage. Too often as one person is speaking the other is dissecting the message readying a response... Don’t do that. Pay attention to what is being said. How it is being said. If you do not know, ask why it is being said, listen. If communication is clear without all the static there will be progress in the process. Hit TV Show Blackish, pivotal episode In IndieWire, Tracee Ross and Anthony Anderson discuss a pivotal episode where the beloved couple play the roles of Bow and Dre. “Black-ish” is in the middle of what may be its most daring storytelling yet: A current storyline in which Dre (Anthony Anderson) and Bow (Tracee Ellis Ross) have hit a rough patch in their marriage.“I had trepidations,” Ross said of the storyline. “It’s scary to pull a couple that’s so beloved and that I love apart into a difficult space and a difficult time. But Ialso think it’s really real. Couples go through this. And one of the things I thought was beautiful about the way they did it is no one is to blame. It was just unfolded over time with this couple.“The anchor of our show is usually that love, respect and enjoying of each other that Bow and Dre have,” Ross added. “There’s a really solid partnership that they have. For that kind of foundational anchor to be loosened felt and feels really uncomfortable. I’m grateful to the audience for hanging in here with us.” THE TAYLORS NOVEMBER 2018 • THRIVE | 37