allowed me to transition from Marjorie’ s assistant to my own photography business. From there I was booked to do events for Rolling Out and then a contributor both as a photographer and writer and the rest became history.
Q: Having a baby brought you back to your passion … A: The beautiful thing is it’ s never in your timing. A lot of times we are in a rush to get to a particular point but we have to still go through so much we have to fine tune. It’ s like a plant; it’ s not going to grow if it’ s holding onto dead leaves. God has to take us through some things to remind us whose we are and then we can tune into that power and when we can say now that I know I couldn’ t have done any of this without you, then we can THRIVE. We carry too many bags like Erykah Badu’ s“ Bag Lady” song and when you move forward the doorway is smaller so you’ ve go to let that stuff go.
Q: How has the co-parenting relationship between you and your son’ s father benefited you to become this PINKTABULOUS THRIVING woman? A: I choose right or he choose right either way We choose right. I choose someone who I believed in not just him as a person but everything that he was. Honestly I would not be able to be the person I am without him. He allows me to fly, to be who I am for Brenton and who Brenton needs me to be without expecting something different. We are clear on who we are and what we bring to the table and that’ s all we require. I NEVER wanted to be in a situation where because I hated the father their relationship couldn’ t THRIVE. I don’ t have a hateful bone in my body for his father it just didn’ t work out. I love who he is and we’ re family no matter what. I love the fact that because he allows me to be the person I need to be I am able to be the best mother to Brenton. We are able to meet each other at each other’ s needs and not expect anything else but that. What’ s most important to me is that Brenton has a smile on his face and all I focus on is how can his father and I keep it that way.
You can’ t be who you were back then and Q: # 1 tip for a single mom... THRIVING TIP! A: Be mindful of who you are surrounded by. It takes a expect to have certain blessings. village to make sure you are in the right mental space, to be able to do everything. Be mindful of who you have on your
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Be mindful of who you are child while being a surrounded by. photographer, radio show host, inventor and
We never know what mask someone is going to wear, so pay marketing consultant attention. The team doesn’ t have to be 20 ppl it just needs and still nice person to be a good support system. You need someone to cry on, where does the drive come from to do it all? someone to help you out, to be accountable to, someone A: I’ ve always had a sense of urgency. A sense of I’ ve got to help motivate you...
to make it happen today, I’ ve got to make it happen now. Being in a situation where I’ ve always lived on my own, even when me and his father were together I never lived with him, so I’ ve always had to make it happen. The mentorship from being around people who had the same mindset of wanting more and creating more helped me to go after what I wanted. I always knew I always wanted an amazing lifestyle, so it didn’ t matter what I had to do. I have to do it all so that I can have this amazing lifestyle that I want. I use Brenton as a force to push me and not a crutch to hold me back. I always want him to see me working hard, and striving for something else.
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