Whose Dream Life Are You Living?
5 Steps To Help You Create Your Dream In 2017
by Amber Hunter
As a single mother of two sons, it’ s not always easy to focus on myself and my wants. I realize this is the same for many mothers who defer their dreams for those of their family and children. We focus so much on making sure our children have what they need and want that we can easily push ourselves to the background. As moms we can think the time for our dreams has passed- the devil is a lie! The time to achieve your dreams is right now.
So I had to ask myself, whose dream life am I living? I reflected on this question one morning earlier this year. I wasn’ t satisfied with the direction of my life. Don’ t get me wrong, I have a very blessed life and I am grateful for my family, health and the ability to provide. However, there has always been this feeling as though I wasn’ t living to my fullest potential. So I asked myself, am I living my own dream life? Am I living the dream life everyone else had envisioned for me? What is my dream life?
In all honesty, I did not know what my dreams were. I knew what it took for me to be a great mom to my sons, but I lacked vision on what made me a great person on my own. I challenged myself to figure out what path would lead me to my own fulfillment.
I want to share five steps that helped me and will help you start moving towards your“ dream life” vision.
Envision your dream life If you are like me then this could take a few days of reflection. Sit with yourself and think about what your“ dream life” looks like for you. Don’ t limit your thoughts. Allow yourself to think outside the box. There are no rules in envisioning YOUR dream life. Be flexible in your dreams and allow them to change as you grow in 2017.
Journal your thoughts It’ s time to write down your thoughts and the dream life you envisioned. Journaling is a great way to put ideas and thoughts down on paper and watch them manifest into reality.
I started writing out my ideas – personal and business related. It has been nice to look back and see how these ideas have manifested in my life. It also helps me combat anxiety that may creep in from trying to obtain what I once thought was impossible – my dreams.
Exercise It is important as moms that we take care of our physical bodies.
Understandably, as busy moms we can’ t make it to the gym everyday. Start where you are and try doing some videos at home in the morning or evening. If your job has a gym, make time to go at some point during the day a few times a week.
This was a critical step for me as I started gaining weight and experiencing anxiety. I met myself where I was and started out doing exercise videos on YouTube, they are free and I can do them in my own time. I eventually committed to a trainer and joined LA Fitness through my company. This gym provides childcare services, leaving me with no excuses. Now my son asks me,“ when are we going to the gym?” if we miss too many days.
“ Walking into 2017 manifesting and creating your dream life. Leaving the old behind.” – Amber Hunter
Explore Hobbies That Bring You Joy My favorite step! This is where you get to think about all the things you like to do or would like to do. Remember there are no limits. For me, I bought a sewing machine and started taking
classes at my local arts center. I would bring my sons along if they didn’ t have activities planned. I made it very clear to them that this was important to me and was my activity time. I love traveling so I traveled to Paris with my teenage son. I wanted to have a garden so I started with a tomato plant in a pot. The plant produced a few tomatoes and I started to learn more about how to care about plants.
The sky’ s the limit with this step. Have fun finding what you like to do in your own time.
Stop Procrastinating No more excuses, it’ s time to get moving towards all the things you have imagined above. Start where you are right now. Don’ t just dream, take action and do. This is your year to manifest your dreams into reality. Don’ t let that favorite TV show, Facebook, or anything else distract you from your envisioned dream life.
Working through these steps has helped me to create an idea and a path to start exploring my dream life. I hope that you too start to craft, create and manifest your dream life into reality in 2017.
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