WHY
Did You Take Him Back
Sis
Written by Khadine Whittaker
I would have loved to boast that I served my ex dust after we broke up . I skipped town and never looked back . Well , that ' s not my story . In fact , I pined after him for days , reminisced our good times and soaked in sorrow because the heartache from the separation was worse than I expected . I laboured with thoughts of “ what ifs ” and “ maybes ”. And I fantasized about going back . In retrospect , the relationship wasn ' t too bad but it wasn ' t too good either . Still , I took him back .
While some relationships have survived a breakup , ours didn ' t . We kept dancing around the real cause for the breakup in the first place and got tired of our sloppy 1 , 2 steps . Besides that , the question remains , " Why did I take him back ?". So for those of you with a similar story , review these 6 possible answers to see which fits your reality . You could save yourself from future heartache .
1
IT WAS MY FAULT
Yes you did him dirty , you had a nasty attitude , you were overbearing and you didn ' t care too much . Perhaps you were too submissive , you always put his needs first . Whatever it was , you caused the relationship to end . Even if it was your fault , the bottom line is that you can ’ t shoulder the full burden of a relationship . You take your Lessons and learn from them in order to bring your best you to the next one .
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I WAS TOO LONELY
We often have an extreme aversion to dealing with loneliness especially when we have been in long-term relationships . The thought of having to move on without the one you ' ve spent many days , months , or years is coupled with the fear of being alone . One online writer described this fear as " one of the single greatest contributors to human misery and the driver of some of our weightiest and most unfortunate decisions ." ( The School of Life ). In this context , we tend to associate being alone with being unloved . Being alone never means there is something wrong with us or that we ' re being punished . Take this time to find joy in the company of your own mind and emotions .