The Whole You October 2016 | Page 24

What does it mean to Nurture? Nurture means to feed and protect; to support and encourage; foster; to bring up, train, educate, develop; something that nourishes. The thesaurus lists synonyms for nurture as care, discipline, instruct, provide, sustenance, train, bolster, cherish, cultivate, nurse, sustain, support, tend and necessities. Antonyms for nurture are deprive, ignorance, neglect, starve. These are strong, vivid words, ones that paint a picture of what our existence looks like without a nurturing presence. I’ve been fascinated by nurture for the last seven months, studying it and interviewing women on the subject, but really I’ve been unofficially observing it for my entire forty-three years of life. I long to be able to understand it – how we become nurturers, why it offers value to us and to those we love, and what it feels like when nurture is missing. I’m calling this first article a definition, but that’s a generous term as nurture is a wide and expansive subject. It is subtle and nuanced, with no one woman providing repeat answers in my survey. I think that’s what I love so much about it as a topic. We’ll have lots to explore together over the coming months. Nurture involves process. It’s slow, requiring a patient sense of building. To nurture is to care for something while it grows and develops, providing encouragement and support every step of the way. True nurture first builds depth in the nurturer, creating a wellspring of caring attention to give away to others. I believe nurture is a revolutionary act, particularly when our society doesn’t hold it in high esteem. When we nurture well, it feels real and true and genuine. Nurture is first and foremost an inside job. The phrase