The Well Magazine Fall/Winter 2015 | Page 13

Since the loss of her son in 2007, Holt knows about pain. She common sense gun control that after a time fade away until the experienced the most devastating pain of her life that changed next tragedy. A shooting in a movie theater, an elementary school, her life when Blair was killed on that CTA bus. a historic African-American church, live on television. “There’s not a day that goes by that he’s not on my heart or But for every murder that captures the public’s attention for a in my mind,” Holt said. “It doesn’t get any easier. It just gets a time, thousands go unnoticed except by those left behind to little different.” mourn them. That pain motivates her passion and purpose. Holt’s passion was raising her son. Now it has become fighting the gun vioMy Faith Kept Me lence that makes other mothers and fathers join the group that The little girl wanted to be a princess. Her wish was granted for nobody wants to be in—parents of murdered children. her funeral. Purpose Over Pain bought her princess clothes when In Chicago last year, there were 426 murders, the vast majorthe grandmother of the slain child told them that was her wish. ity of them shootings and almost half of the victims between It is just one of the support services that the group provides to the ages of 13 and 24. There were about 2,500 shootings, acfamilies of murdered children as they walk with them through the cording to published reports. journey of losing a child. The group provides material and emoThe Brady Campaign to Prevent Gun Violence reports altional support for famimost 300 Americans are shot in murders, assaults, suicides and lies who have lost loved accidents every day. Of those almost 300 Americans shot every ones to violence. day, 89 of them die. Every day, 5 children and teens are murLong after the funeral dered as a result of gun violence, according to the Brady Camand the trial, if there is paign. one, the pain still lingers. Holt and Blair’s father, Ronald, a Chicago police officer, were “ There are some mothdetermined that their son would not die in vain. The Holts ers who can’t see their divorced in 2002 but worked together to raise their son. They way out of this,” Holt continue to work together said. Some become clinito keep his memory alive cally depressed, suicidal and prevent others from or turn to drugs, sex or having to face the same alcohol. tragedy. In 2007, they What kept Holt going founded Purpose Over was her faith in God. “I knew about God. Pain. The Holts and Had I not known about him I would have members of the group are been one of those parents too,” said Holt determined that their purwho is a member of St. Sabina Church, pose would overcome the which is led by Father Michael Pfleger, a devastating pain of their vocal anti-violence and gun control advoloss. cate. “We decided we were “My faith kept me believing that God not going to let Blair die would provide for me and he would make in vain. We knew he me strong and I would see my son again.” The murder of her son Blair inspires Annette Nance-Holt’s would not want us to The support of other mothers in groups work to end gun violence. Holt (center) and Blair’s father, just die with him,” Holt Ronald, started the group Purpose Over Pain to support like Parents of Murdered Children who had said. “We had to fight made it and who understood her pain also parents of murdered children and prevent gun violence. because this pain was the helped. type you wouldn’t wish on your worst enemy. We didn’t want Holt bel