The Virtuous Daughter Magazine Fall 2017 edition Cherish | Page 32

made us to be is the assurance
deep down that we can completely
trust in Father God for every need
of our life. That trust right there is
what will attract the right kind of
man, delight his heart, and teach
you how to walk alongside him in
honor—while having fun! It frees
him from the crushing burden of
having to be perfect to please you,
and it frees you to enjoy all his
kindness without fear.
Trust like this may be a process to
grow in, and you may argue with
me that it’s not possibly as sim-
ple as learning to trust. There are
things we must DO, right? Correct.
But let me propose to you the pos-
sibility that even the things we do
are supposed to flow spontaneous-
ly out of a heart full of love, and
that the only way we can possess
that perfect love that casts out fear
and motivates us to action is by
first trusting enough to receive it.
Don’t know how? Not a problem.
I’ve observed that God actually
enjoys the process of proving His
incredible goodness and build-
ing trust in our hearts, however
many years that may take Him. He
never tires of it. One by one He’ll
take you to the hurting places of
your heart and stand by you in the
struggle till you’re ready to surren-
der one more piece of your broken
self for Him to fill and redeem. I
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have never known Him to use His
power to scorn or hurt me where
I’m vulnerable. He always uses it
to lift me up. This confidence will
increase over time and enlarge
your capacity to receive His love
when He comes to give it. It is that
love that will cast fear out of your
heart and bring you alive to be the
vibrant, fearless woman you’ve
dared dream possible. He will do
it… but it starts with a choice from
you. The choice to take a risk—and
trust.
“That He would grant you… to
be strengthened with might by
His Spirit in the inner man; that
Christ may dwell in your hearts
by faith; that ye, being rooted and
grounded in love, may be able to
comprehend with all saints what
is the breadth, and length, and
depth, and height; and to know
the love of Christ, which passeth
knowledge, that ye might be filled
with all the fullness of God.” Eph
3:16-19 KJV
What a wonderful passage [one
of my favorites]. You have the
very authority of the Scriptures to
stand on to go to God and say, “I
need Your Holy Spirit to strength-
en me in my inner being so I can
receive the love of Christ—which
is broad and wonderful beyond
anything I can imagine right now.
It’s Your love that frees me from
fear; and, God, I need to be freed
from fear. I want to be like the
women of old who adorned them-
selves with the attitude of unwor-
ried trust and obedience. Would
You take me there, Lord? Would
You open me up and free me to be
the woman You ordained me to be
ever since You formed me in the
womb? (Psalm 139) And would
You protect me and lead me to the
right man, one who will care for
me in the same loving way You
do, and represent Your good heart
towards me, and lead me as he
follows You?”
That in itself is an act of obedi-
ence springing out of trust in
what God says. He will doubtless
use it to multiply that trust inside
you, and bring you by and by to
that perfect place of rest. I myself
am still on that journey, hun-
gry inside to the know the FULL
depth of the love of my Father so
that I’m unafraid of whatever life
brings along. Don’t get too hard
on yourself. Learn to relax and
enjoy the process as much as God
does. He’s the One Who wants
to fill you with love, and He’s the
One Who’s able to teach you what
trust is all about by and by. Lean
on Him to do the heavy lifting,
and begin to experience what
being a woman is all about. It’s
the most wonderful, freeing thing
you’ll ever experience, and it will
shape you into the woman your
man longs for and needs most.
This—discovering who you really
are as a woman via trust in your
Heavenly Husband—is the only
way I know to have a fulfilling re-
lationship with an earthly man.
I hope you dance in the flowers. I
hope you shriek with laughter and
twirl in that new dress because
you feel so beautiful and whole. I
hope you take on life with a fear-
lessness and fire in your eye ex-
plained only by the Love that has
enlarged you to live fully. I hope
you bubble over with kindness
and wisdom to those around you,
and take on the nature of your
Comforter when others are hurt.
I hope you grin with playful mis-
chief and thrive on the challenges
life brings. I hope that you are
covered by a man who leads you
with all the gentleness and in-
tegrity of Christ. And I hope that
the deep desires you apprehend
in your heart come to pass as you
surrender to and wait patiently on
the Creator who put them there.
Trust in God. It will never lead
you wrong.
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