The Victoria Napolitano Bookstore Pretty, Powerful & Polite written by Victoria - Page 7

Be: Pretty. Powerful. Polite Powerful This is one of the most important of the P’s. Being powerful doesn’t mean being angry or aggressive, it’s just the opposite. Being powerful means being in control. It means you have a confidence about you. It also means you are observant. their tone and annunciate their words. Most times this is accompanied by a tone and cadence that is lower than the loud, attention-seeking counter- part rushing around the room. There are three basic must-do behaviors a wom- an, who wants and demands power, needs to have: Powerful people tend to be sincere. They won’t lie to your face just to look good or avoid hurting your feelings. They will be honest and upfront. But they will do it in such a polite and articulate way, that you will be able to receive it without be- ing offended. For instance, a business opportunity arises and the “Powerful” person in you is asked if you are interested. Let’s say the opportunity is a chain of car washes where women in Daisy Dukes shorts wash the cars. You have no interest, how- ever, like most people you feel obligated to say, “Yes”. So not wanting to offend, you agree to get involved. Then, later when the potential partner in the Daisy Dukes enterprise calls you avoid him until eventually he stops calling. 1. Punctuality Being punctual means you take being on time se- riously. It is a priority and not a second thought. In being late and rushing you have given the pow- er to whoever you are meeting. They will look at you with disapproval or plain disrespect. Giving excuses may mediate your late- ness, but be aware most people will remember and it won’t be a positive memory 2. Speaking Speaking fast or over people doesn’t demonstrate power or control. It demonstrates the exact op- posite. Being powerful is all about control. Look back at a party or meeting you attended. The per- son speaking fast and rushing around the room appears to be reckless and intrusive. While others are engaged in intellectual conversations or ex- changing pleasantries—she appears out of control and that diminishes her perceived value. Now think about powerful CEO’s you have met. Chances are they are cool, calm and collected. They speak clearly, they are on point about the topic and they have a comfortab le cadence that speaks of confidence and power. They manage 7 3. Sincerity A powerful person will be professional and polite (we will hit on Polite in the next section). Say- ing something like, “that adventure sounds like a blast, but it is out of my skill set. I do wish you the best of luck.” Stop there! Do not promise you will pass the information on or give the details to friends. Just end it without embellishment. Giving people false hope is dishonest. To you the venture may seem like a joke, but the person invested in the idea, may think it’s the greatest concept to come along in the decades. So, always be polite and professional. Victoria Napolitano VNSN.TV