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The Valley Catholic MOVIE REVIEW: ‘Calvary’ By John Mulderig NEW YORK (CNS) -- Set in rural Ireland, the bleak but powerful seriocomedy “Calvary” (Fox Searchlight) kicks off with a startling premise. In the confessional, a grown victim of childhood sex abuse by a priest tells Father James Lavelle (Brendan Gleeson), the dedicated pastor of a County Sligo parish, that in a week’s time he intends to avenge himself by killing the innocent clergyman. With the perpetrator of the crimes against him dead, and despairing of being healed by therapy, the victim reasons that to take the life of a cleric would draw people’s attention. As writer-director John Michael McDonagh chronicles the seven days that follow Father James’ life-threatening encounter, we learn that this thoroughly decent but otherwise ordinary man of the cloth is a widower and father ordained after his wife’s death. He deals with his emotionally fragile daughter (Kelly Reilly) and with the variety of errant or merely eccentric souls who make up his small flock (including Chris O’Dowd, Orla O’Rourke, Dylan Moran, Aiden Gillen and M. Emmet Walsh), all the while wavering about how to respond to the threat on his life. Gleeson gives a memorable performance as a thoroughly decent but ordinary man confronted by the ultimate challenge, and McDonagh ably explores September 9, 2014 Art & Life/marriage minute 7 Marriage Minute Seven days of marriage wisdom ‘CALVARY’-- Brendan Gleeson portrays a priest who is faced with troubling circumstances brought about by a mysterious member of his parish. (CNS photo/Patrick Redmond, Twentieth Century Fox) themes of faith, moral failure, reconciliation and sacrifice. Unsparing, yet mostly respectful in its treatment of the contemporary Church, the film is nonetheless a demanding experience with a narrow appropriate audience. Brief but extremely gory violence, drug use, mature themes, including clergy sexual abuse, homosexual prostitution and suicide, a few uses of profanity, much rough and crude language. The Catholic News Service classification is L -- limited adult audience, films whose problematic content many adults would find troubling. The Motion Picture Association of America rating is R -- restricted. Under 17 requires accompanying parent or adult guardian. • John Mulderig is on the staff of Catholic News Service. By Paul & Stephanie Francois Worldwide Marriage Encounter We first saw these 7 tips below on Facebook as adapted from Proverbs 31 Ministries: Day 1 – Be the person you’d like to be married to. If you need more love and understanding, give more love and understanding to your spouse. As flawed human beings, most of us tend to think in terms of “What I need/what I want from you.” This first piece of wisdom challenges us to reverse that and think instead, “What do YOU need/what can I give to YOU?” Day 2 – Nobody is perfect. Don’t let the world find out about your spouse’s imperfections from you. The book of proverbs tells us: “The heart of her husband trusts in her.” (31:11) We are reminded that we are called to speak favorably about our spouse to others – our children, our parents, our siblings, our friends, and our co-workers. Day 3 – The best of you. Make it a point to give your spouse the best of you-the best of your touch, your good attitude, your laughter, your words. Don’t bring them what’s left of you after the world has drained you. Day 4 – Be intentional. Each day look for a way to bless your spouse. A thankful, giving heart will repulse blame and discontent. The book of Romans tells us: “Outdo one another in showing honor.” (12:10) Day 5 – Believe the best. Believe the best about your spouse, even when he/ she doesn’t communicate well. Sometimes it’s hard to find the right words. St. Paul tells us: “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” (1Cor: 13). In our relationship, we call this “presuming good will.” Day 6 – Positive touch. Greet your spouse with a kiss. Positive touch releases endorphins, so you associate your spouse with pleasant feelings. Bonus: You can’t say anything regrettable when your lips are occupied! Day 7 – Reconnect. Life affects all of us. No one remains the same. We change physically, act less romantically, are tired, etc. Take time to find the two people who fell in love and reconnect. “Rejoice in the wife of your youth.” (Proverbs 5:18) Reflection: Which of these 7 pieces of marriage wisdom do I most need to work on to enhance our relationship? For more tips on creating a joy-filled marriage, visit www.sanjosewwme.org. SEPTEMBER 12-14 An Ignatian Experience of God Silent Retreat for Men Fr. Kevin Leidich, S.J. and Mr. Michael Cheney Consider how God is actively involved in your life every day. SEPTEMBER 19-21 A Journey with Henri Nouwen Silent Retreat for Women Fr. Jim Flynn, S.J. and Mr. Michael Cheney Henri Nouwen insisted that an authentic life comes from living out of the core of who we truly are. SEPTEMBER 26-28 More Life: The Great Work Begins | LGBT Retreat Non-silent Retreat for Women & Men Fr. Michael Zampelli, S.J. and Dr. Sheila Nelson A weekend retreat for the gay and lesbian community to consider the questions that really matter. OCTOBER 10-12 Let Your Life Speak Non-silent Retreat for Women & Men Ms. Chris Rodgers and Ms. Rosemary Robinson What does it mean to be to be called forth by God in a particular, personal way? www.dsj.org