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The Valley Catholic marriaGe & family life MaRRIaGE MINUTE October 7, 2014 5 Pope chooses ‘family’ as theme for World Communications Day 2015 What Parents Teach Us richard and theresa rieve Worldwide Marriage Encounter We don’t just marry the one we love, but their family as well. One thing both of us appreciate about our parents is that they valued their marriage and couple relationship. They gave us an example of marriage as a commitment to be there for each other, “to have each other’s back”, as the current phrasing would say, until death parts us. In our words, “We’re in this for better or for worse, so we might as well make it better”. (Theresa) My parents didn’t go for a lot of hugs and kisses, but my four sisters and I always felt secure; the love and respect our parents had for each other were obvious in so many ways. Once my sisters and I were bugging our mom, asking which of us she loved the best. She said, “Oh, but I love your father the best.” (Richard): With my parents, everyone got lots of hugs. They loved romantic gestures. For example, my mom loved flowers, so my dad would plant flowers so he could cut bouquets for Mom. When there weren’t any, he’d bring flowers home from the store. (Theresa) And when I was arranging our first apartment, I put two easy chairs on either side of a small table—nice and balanced. My mother-in-law said, “Don’t you want the chairs together? How will you be able to hold hands when you watch TV?” (Richard): Probably the biggest lesson my parents taught me is the value of family. We were taught to take care of grandparents and to help other family members whenever we could. Family didn’t always get along, but I learned from Mom to be a peacemaker. (Theresa): My dad had frequent asthma attacks, and we never knew if he’d live through the next one. My parents never complained; they prayed and trusted God. They also taught me that no one is ever too poor to share what they have. They were generous with their time, abilities, and what little treasure they had. We appreciate the example they were for us. We can honestly say, “We come from a long line of love.” VATICAN CITY (CNS) -- As the family gets special focus in two upcoming synods and an international gathering in Philadelphia next year, Pope Francis is highlighting the beauty and value of the family in his message for World Communications Day. “Communicating the family: a privileged place of encounter with the gift of love” will be the theme of the church’s celebration of World Communications Day, which most dioceses will mark May 17, the Sunday before Pentecost. The pope’s message for the day is expected to be released Jan. 24, the feast of St. Francis de Sales, patron saint of journalists. The Pontifical Council for Social Communications, in a Sept. 29 announcement of the pope’s choice of the theme, said the news points out many of the difficulties facing families today and “often times, cultural changes do not help us appreciate how much the family is a good for society.” The challenge facing the church and its work in communications is figuring out how to share with the world, especially those who are hurting, the beauty of love, life and marriage between a man and a woman. “Today the church must learn again how to show that the family is a great gift, something good and beautiful” and to show this gift of love “more vividly,” the council said. “It is an exciting task because it moves people to look at the true reality of the human person, and it opens the doors to the future, that is, to life,” it said. Are you connected with the Diocese of San Jose? For more tips on creating a joy-filled marriage, visit www.sanjosewwme.org. HTCNA_SJVALLEY_092614.ai 1 9/26/14 12:19 PM 3 Days of a Powerful YOUNG ADULT RETREAT With Holy Trinity Community North America Conducted by The Sisters of Daughters of Carmel - San Francisco Rev. Vito Perrone (Contemplatives of St. Joseph) C CM MY www.dsj.org Like us on Facebook Diocese of San Jose Follow us on Twitter )