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The Valley Catholic Marriage & Family Life March 11, 2014 11 Special Mass celebrates married life with over 200 couples By Roberta Ward Bishop Patrick J. McGrath presided at the annual diocesan Mass for some 200 married couples celebrating special anniversaries, Feb. 15, at St. Joseph Cathedral Basilica. This year couples celebrating their fifth anniversary (or less) were invited to join those celebrating their 25th, 40th and 50th (or more) anniversaries at the special Mass. Couples renewed their wedding vows and received a blessing from the bishop as well as a certificate signed by him. The multicultural face of the Diocese of San Jose was in evidence in the packed cathedral as the special couples renewed their marriage vows, in their own language, saying, “I take you again to be my wife/husband. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.” In his homily, Bishop McGrath said, Dr. Sam Haddad and his wife Bea celebrated 50 years of marriage at Mass and reception with Bishop McGrath. “The years flowing from a simple ‘I do’ are sometimes more about commitment than love, more about fidelity than honor. And they are truly more about the presence and grace of God that anyone might dare to expect. Here we are joyfully cel- ILM Director reflects on celebration of 25 years of married life By Linda Cunha-Ricchio Our 25 years began with a first date to a play based on the letters and poetry of Elizabeth Barrett Browning to her husband, Robert. This particular poem comes from a place of gratitude and a recognition that God is near. It speaks of everyday’s quiet need, loving freely, loving passionately, and smiles and tears. That evening, we could not know that it was the start of our life together. “How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.” A key ingredient for success in marriage for us is our faith. We are not alone in this relationship. Our faith has been foundational and throughout our 25 years. In Christian marriage, the couple is called to help one another attain holiness and to pass on the faith to our children. Our 1,300 weeks together have been punctuated with attending Sunday liturgy with our daughter and trying to live out our faith. Gratitude and prayer have carried us through each of our 9,125 days together through smiles and tears, everyday need, through illnesses and celebrations. There have been many holiday gatherings, school activities, soccer games and graduations, but another ingredient in our marriage has been the sanctity of date night and spending quality time together. Pope Francis recently met with thousands of engaged couples and shared his thoughts on how to approach the “fear of forever.” “[It] is cured by entrusting oneself day by day to the Lord Jesus in a life that becomes a daily spiritual path of common growth, step by step.” The Pope emphasized that living together in marriage is “an art, a patient, beautiful and fascinating journey.” Linda Cunha-Ricchio and husband Frank Ricchio celebrated 25 years at recent wedding anniversary Mass at St. Joseph Cathedral Basilica in San Jose. (Photo by (Photo by Clarisse Balistreri) Couples pronounced their wedding vows during special Mass in cathedral. ebrating 6,744 years. That is more than 2,400,000 days, at least some of them in wedded bliss!” Referring to the Readings for the Mass, the bishop said, “It is love that St. Paul defines as the essential virtue, more than faith, more than hope, more than any other gifts. For, possessing all other gifts, but without love, we are empty, nothing more than a clanging cymbal. “Sacrifice is difficult…only love can make it easy, and perfect love can make it a joy! This love has girded you, held you together, made possible the gifts of yourselves offered to one another, to your children and to the world.” He added, “Christian Marriage is always about more than the couple, always more than even the family. Christian Marriage enriches the Church and it enriches the world… you are a gift to the Church, for in you we learn Leandro & Minni Villareal, celebrated 60 years. (Photo by Clarisse Balistreri) something of the love that Christ has for the Church, the love he has for all of us and for all who strive to follow his example of love.” Organizations involved in the planning of the event included Couples for Christ, Encuentro Matrimonial Mundial, and Worldwide Marriage Encounter. • Visit dev.dsj.org/being-catholic/worship/photos for more photos. Clarisse Balistreri) He summarized the need for couples to use three important words: “please,” “thank you” and “sorry.” We have spoken these words of courtesy many times because we know we should not take each other for granted. =