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BIG Q! Working Out Together Keeps Both of You Fit Dear Big Q, My babe accused me of not supporting him as he builds his “empire”. This is not true. I listen as he discusses his obstacles and watch as he overcomes each one. He is a hard worker and has some dreams he is trying to accomplish. What can I do to show him I am his number one cheerleader? (Waterloo, IA) ~ Over A Cliff With Him Dear Over A Cliff With Him, The keyword that stood out to me in your question is “watch”. You said that you listen to his obstacles and watch as he overcomes them. Instead of watching, have you ever stepped in and helped him with his endeavors? This may be why he feels that you are not supportive of his dreams and building his empire. If you are truly his number one cheerleader you will do whatever you can to not only encourage him, but also directly support him. This direct support could include you physically helping him with different tasks and activities that he needs to get accomplished to reach his goals. Even if you do help him from time to time, maybe you can put increased effort into helping him more frequently. This would probably make him feel like you are more concerned and involved in his plans. Good luck to both of you. ~ Big Q --------------------------------- Dear Big Q, How do I tell my girlfriend that she has gained weight in a polite, encouraging way? (Louisville, KY) ~ Obviously Observing Dear Obviously Observing, My first question to you is, are you physically fit at this present time? The reason I ask you this is because it will be very hard to ask her to lose weight if you aren’t on point with your health and weight. Just a little something to think about before you are asking her to cook and eat healthier, then you should be willing to change your diet as well. Just be prepared to make some healthy changes in your life if you want her to successfully make changes in hers. It’s all just part of being a TEAM bro. Good luck on your journey! ~ Big Q --------------------------------- BIG Q Male Advice Columnist ----------------------------------------------- Learn more about Big Q’s advice at http://www.thesoultown.com/big-q-.html Email Me: [email protected] you start encouraging her. Either way it goes, if I were you I would encourage her to lose weight by purchasing both you and her a membership to a local fitness club. That way you two can work out together and spend quality time with each other, as well. Also, you can encourage her to cook healthier for both you and her. The main point to remember is that regardless of what you suggest for her, you will have to commit to making changes for yourself to support her effectively. If you are asking her to work out and stay fit then you probably should be willing to work out with her. If Dear Big Q, I love street guys. What I mean is that I am attracted to men that are traditionally blue- collar workers. They do not have to have a degree for me or be able to engage in a conversation with a top executive, however, I like nice things. And … I like to dress nice from time-to-time and go out to a classy place. Is it possible for me to find all of this in a man? Or am I just dreaming? (East Palo Alto, CA) ~ Just A Little Bit Dear Just A Little Bit, Absolutely sweetheart! You can definitely find all of this in one man. Just because a man is a blue-collar worker that doesn’t have a degree, does not mean that he can’t live a prosperous life and have all the things that he truly wants. As a matter of fact, some of my good friends work at John Deere and are blue-collar workers. These individuals live a very comfortable life and some even have more possessions and style than most white-collar workers that I personally know. Just because they wear uniforms to work doesn’t mean that they don’t have style and can’t get fresh once they are off the clock. So to answer your question, no you are not dreaming. Yes, you can find a blue- collar man who can provide for you and contribute to you living the type of lifestyle that can make you happy. Good luck on finding your Prince Charming. He is definitely out there searching for you as well. ~ Big Q , Aug. 2019 • The Soultown International Magazine • Celebrating 2 years • Connecting Our Cultures to Our Cyber & Conscious Communities • thesoultown.com 24