The Soultown! Volume III: Issue 7 JULY 2019 | Page 11

LEAVE IT ALL UP TO STEVE! concerns. In fact, I think its a bad idea. In times like these, we have to be extremely careful of the very appearance of wrongdoing. All it takes is one accusation to curtail your life. Talk to your daughter and let her know your concerns. I think that you are correct to take as many precautions as possible. Have you considered having the sleepover at someone else’s home where the female presence is more prevalent? If that is not an option, I would enlist the participation of other adult females to maybe chaperone or monitor the activities of the sleepover. Maybe ask a couple of the mothers of the invited guests to assist or work in shifts to provide coverage. I would have a strict plan as to when and where they ate and slept and to whom they would speak if something sensitive happens (periods, etc.). Most importantly, NEVER EVER be alone with any of the girls. Consider this one bro - your daughter needs her dad and the risks are just very high. Hit me back and let me know your thoughts. If you think of anything else, do not hesitate to reach out and “Ask Steve!” Peace. Hey Steve, I just found out that my son is not my biological son. Unfortunately, he became ill and people from all over the city came to the hospital to visit. While returning from getting him ice chips, I heard another kid say to him that they are brothers. I questioned my girlfriend and she started crying. Later … $1,025 and a paternity test later, it was confirmed. Where do I go from here with fatherhood? As far as my girl … I’m lost! ~ Snatched from Fatherhood (Waterloo, IA) Dear Snatched from Fatherhood, I am so sorry to hear that this is happening to you bro. My heart goes out to you and your son. Unfortunately, this is a multi-layered situation. On the one hand, you have to reconcile the fact that your girlfriend has been untruthful and possibly unfaithful. Trust has been violated and the path to reconciliation can be a long one. On the other hand, you have grown to love and care for a child that I am certain shares the same affection towards you. You will have to decide if and how you want to remain in this child’s life. There are so many children raised and reared by people who are not their biological parents. If the child is old enough, you will need to talk to the child and reassure him that nothing will change regardless of DNA. You and the mother will have to come up with a plan starting with her telling the truth, the entire truth. You will also need to see where the biological father stands in this situation because he may have been lied to as well. I know this is a lot to digest, but take it slowly and focus on the child right now. Let me know how it works out and if I can offer any other advice remember to just “Ask Steve” - I’m right here. Grace and Peace. I am Steve, from Leave It All Up To Steve with The Soultown International Magazine. I’d like to thank you for being so compassionate toward others. I’m here if you have any other questions - just “ASK STEVE.” , Email Me: [email protected] Missed an Issue? Order your favorite copy for $10 July 2019 • The Soultown International Magazine • Celebrating 2 years • Connecting Our Cultures to Our Cyber & Conscious Communities • thesoultown.com 11