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DEAR GABBY
Are My Standards of Today’s Generation Off?
Dear Gabby,
I have 5 sisters and I love them all. However, I
adore one of them more than the others. Is this
a bad thing? How can I show them all that they
are really special to me? (Waterloo, IA)
~ Big Brother
Dear Big Brother,
No this is not a bad thing at all. These are your
siblings and you love them all, but you like one
more. I’m sure you have friends you like more than
others, or a meal, songs etc. It is okay to have a
preference. As long as you are not treating the
others badly, then you are all good. Take them out to
dinner, or do something sentimental to show them
all that you care. Even if you get them all a card
showing your appreciation, they’d love it. Women
have intuition though, they might already know that
they aren’t your favorite, lol. Chances are you aren’t
their fav either.
~ Queen Gabby ,
Dear Ms. Courtship,
one knows you have a passenger. He won’t notice,
This is your decision, and yours only. If you want to but now you will!
wait, then wait. Don’t go looking for the approval of
~ Queen Gabby ,
others. Speaking of your significant other, if he is on
board, then this seems like the right choice for you
two. If you feel like this brings you closer to God,
then stick with it. If it doesn’t work out, then he isn’t
the one. As far as your family is concerned, if no
one has tried it then they don’t know much about
it. Let God use you to educate if this happens to be
a success. Don’t stall on your morals, they are in
place for a reason. I hope that this brings you closer
to God and that you two make it. I admire your
dedication. Stay strong!
© 2017
~ Queen Gabby ,
Dear Gabby,
I sat in my man’s car and changed the radio
station, turned the heat up and turned the
rearview mirror to fix my makeup. He just stared
at me and asked me if I thought we were in my
car. He accused of me of being selfish. I was just
Dear Gabby,
doing me, being me and taking care of me. Was
I desire to save myself until marriage and I wrong? (East Palo Alto, CA)
date a man who follows Christian principles
~ Ms. Confused
wholeheartedly. This doesn’t mean he’s perfect,
but it does allow us to connect on another Dear Ms. Confused,
level and build a solid foundation with biblical My question is, were you in the driver’s seat,
guidance. My family and friends have never or passenger? This is funny because I can see
dated this way and don’t really support me. myself doing something similar. I wouldn’t call
Equally, dating men don’t last long after they it being selfish, you were just creating a vibe that
hear my perspective on no sex until marriage was comfortable for you. Maybe he wanted you to
so I often times don’t get a text back .... how ask, so he could feel included. Next time ask if he
can I balance my standards to court in today’s wants to listen to something specific, or if he’s hot
generation of men and stay encouraged to trust or cold. Men love to feel as if they have a say. Do
God’s process with minimal support. (Atlanta, pay attention to the way he acts once he is in your
GA)
vehicle. I’m pretty sure he will get comfortable as
~ Ms. Courtship well. He might even tilt the seat so far back that no
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