The Soultown! Volume III: Issue 10 OCTOBER 2019 | Page 25
BIG Q!
He’s Not The One For You!
Dear Big Q,
Why do men waste so much of a woman’s
time? Why do men play so many games?
Why can’t men just be honest about what they
want? Why don’t men already know what they
want? Help!
~ Sick & Tired
(Redwood City, CA)
Dear Sick & Tired,
Hold on now sweetheart. Sounds to me like you
trying to blame men for every bad thing that has
ever happened to you in life. For starters, you
have to change that attitude if you want to have
a successful relationship with the opposite sex. I
do understand that there are many men out here
that play games with women and take their love
for granted. But there are still some good men
that are out here looking for their soul mate. You
might want to be careful that you don’t scare that
man away once you encounter him. Sometimes
women get this “all men are worthless” mentality
and end up letting the good ones get away
because of their negative attitudes. If a man
wasted your time, played games with you heart,
or lied to you repeatedly, then that man was simply
not the one for you. But please don’t forget that
your husband is still out there waiting to meet you.
Just do both of us a favor and stop putting all men
in one category. Keep a positive attitude and open
your heart to someone who you feel that you are
compatible with. No man is perfect, so all you can
do is be patient and wait for the man that is a good
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when I would stop using it the acne would worsen.
As I got older it faded away, but I also paid
more attention to my skin and started reading
ingredients. I know that I have combination skin,
which means sometimes it’s dry and other times
it’s oily. Because of this, I make sure I use a
fit for you. Goodluck Ms. Lady.
~ Big Q
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Dear Big Q,
My mother doesn’t agree with how my wife
and I are dividing the house chores. My wife
doesn’t cook and hates doing laundry, so I
take on those duties, however she will empty
the trash and clean the bathroom. Do you
believe in gender roles?
~ Equal, but Unequal
Redwood City, CA
Dear Equal, but Unequal,
Let me start off by telling you that I love my momma
from the bottom of my heart bro, but one thing I try
not to do is get her involved in my relationships.
Not only have you managed to do this, but you
have gotten her involved in your marriage. Now
come on man, you know better than that. Usually
this never turns out well at all. Bottom line is
that it’s really not your mother’s business about
what goes on in your marriage. Now please don’t
misunderstand what I’m saying to you about this
situation. I do think that you can go to your mom
for advice or a person to vent to, but you must
be careful that you don’t cause conflict between
your wife and your mom. Because once your wife
and mom don’t like each other you got even more
problems on your hands than who is cooking and
doing laundry. To answer your question, no I don’t
lightweight moisturizer after my face is washed.
Of course, as the day goes on I am super oily, but
I use blotting pads, and matte foundation to help
with the excessive shine. Pay attention to your
skin and find out what kind you have. Also witch
hazel is perfect for removing any scars or dark
marks. A great routine you should try is a soap
BIG Q
Male Advice Columnist
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believe in gender roles, but what I do believe in
is a husband and wife sharing the responsibilities
around the house. What those responsibilities
are really don’t matter to me as long as the
couple is working together and they agree on the
arrangement. In your situation I don’t really think
it’s you that has a problem with cooking and doing
laundry, I think it’s your mom. So my advice to you
would be to continue doing what you have been
doing and keep your mom out of the situation
before you cause your wife and mom to fall out
about you. Good luck bro.
~ Big Q ,
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(something not too harsh, and unscented, and a
lightweight moisturizer. Wash your face twice a
day, and be consistent. Occasionally try a mask
as well. My favorite is the Bentonite Aztec Clay. All
you have to do is add apple cider vinegar, and you
are good to go.
~ Queen Gabby ,
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