The Soultown! Volume III: Issue 10 OCTOBER 2019 | Page 24
DEAR GABBY
Get In the Car and Go!
DEAR GABBY
Female Advice Columnist
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Dear Gabby,
I am not ashamed to admit it, but I have a low,
short haircut and my man has long dreads.
When we go out, it takes him a lot longer than
it takes me. He blames it on his locs. I would
not be seeking advice if it was not excessive. I
am not jealous and I love his swag, but is there
a way I can help him decrease his prep time?
~ Short & Sass
Waterloo, IA
Dear Short & Sassy,
Dreads are easy, there should be no reason he is
not ready first. Take it from someone who has dated
men with the same hairstyle. Locs are simple,
especially if they have already been retwisted.
All he has to do is get up, shake them out, and
go! You could be dealing with a perfectionist, but
name the last time you dated a man who took
longer than you to get ready ... I’ll wait. Let him
know that he takes too long, and maybe give him
time to be ready that is an hour before he needs
to be. Also, you could be proactive by having all
his stuff set out, therefore it’s all right there and
accessible to him. I hate it when a man moves
slow. If you want to be petty ... wait until he has an
important event to go to, and take your sweet time
getting ready. He could just need a taste of his
own medicine. If you want to be extremely petty
... LEAVE HIM! Yep, get in the car and go. Be on
your time, not his.
~ Gabby
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Dear Gabby,
This blind date life is for the birds. I went out
to a club and this clingy guy appeared as if
he had on eyeliner and kept calling me ‘gyrl’.
I don’t want to make any assumptions, but
what’s the best line I can use to remove myself
from an uncomfortable situation?
~ IJS
Davenport, IA
Dear IJS,
Okay, wait…he had on eyeliner sis? Did he keep
calling you gyrl? RUN! Don’t even search for the
right words just haul a**. We are living in different
times, and it’s hard to find a manly man. I am on
the dating scene now, and I am more honest than
what I use to be. Honestly, I would look at him like
there was something on his face and say “what
is that?” Once he tries to figure it out, ask if it’s
eyeliner. I don’t think he would take offense to it.
I mean if he wears it he’d want to make sure it is
not running. If it’s not eyeliner then ask yourself,
do I want to be with a man whose eyes are prettier
than mine? I would think not, but hey whatever
floats your boat. Language is big for me. If a man
is using terms that my homegirls use as well, that’s
a red flag. As far as the eyeliner… you stumped
me with that lol! Maybe he does broadway and
didn’t have time to wash the makeup off. Maybe
he’s bisexual. Maybe he wanted to create some
depth to his eyes. Truth is … we may never know,
so run before you wake up one morning and he’s
using your pencil.
~ Gabby
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Dear Gabby,
My auntie got me an IPSY subscription last
Christmas. Ipsy is a monthly subscription
service for $12 per month which provides
subscribers with a makeup bag of five deluxe
cosmetics samples. The products include
skincare items, perfumes, nail and skin
products, and makeup. I love it and want to
pay it forward to a friend girl. What is a decent
trial period -- as a gift -- that doesn’t make me
look cheap?
~ Ms. Giver
Las Vegas, NV
Dear Ms. Giver,
Hey girl, I love IPSY! Love it so much that I
upgraded mine. The way that it’s setup makes it
easy for me to answer this question. IPSY allows
you to pay for 3 months. It’s only $30, and that
allows your friend time to figure out if this is
something she wants to continue or not. If she’s
into makeup, skincare, or even hair care, then I
am sure she will love it. The price is not expensive
at all, and she gets a surprise every month. Good
idea, I think you should go for it. Do make sure
you remove your card information right after your
purchase because they will automatically bill you
for the next three months. Paying it forward is
always a nice gesture, just in time for Christmas.
~ Gabby
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Dear Gabby,
I have always had problems with my acne. In
school, they called me Rocky Road. I do not
have delicate skin or eczema, but I’m not that
consistent with cleaning products. Your skin
looks clear and blemish-free. Can you suggest
a sista? Thank you, Queen.
~ Bad Acne
Mountain View, CA
Dear Bad Acne.
Girl, I had the worst acne in high school. I know
it’s uncomfortable because it was for me. When
Proactive first came out I used that, but I noticed
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