The Sisterhood May 2017 | Page 8

Ladies of Hot 105 dish on sisterhood and facing fear By MICHELLE HOLLINGER Each one has a voice so distinct you recognize it as soon as you hear her speak. When you’re laughing and jamming along with the Tom Joyner Morning Show, it’s Traci Cloyd’s (TC) assured delivery that brings us morning news and community happenings in a way only the Spelman grad can. Jill Tracey (JT) brings with her distinguished voice a heavy dose of authenticity, humor and sensitivity as she keeps it real on hot topics and current affairs. Rounding out the trio of personalities on the newly returned Michael Baisden Show is homegirl Tamara Gant, better known as Tamara G (TG). Hers is the intelligent voice of reason also serving as the no-non- sense buffer to George Wilborn’s ‘no holds barred’ shenanigans. We got two of the three together for a photo shoot (Tamara G and Traci Cloyd) that was full of laughter, sisterhood and gorgeousness. Jill was photographed solo, and her shoot was full of the energy and good humor she has become known for. We asked each to share her thoughts about a variety of topics, including sisterhood, overcoming fear and their plans for the fu- ture. SISTERHOOD TC: Although I have no biological sisters, I’ve had the great fortune to become dear friends with women across the age spectrum, from millennials to seniors. It is impossible to imag- ine life without the beauty of laughing with and learning from each of them.  In the larger sense of sisterhood, I am a graduate of Spel- man College, so that means I literally have thousands of sisters, some extremely close, others I’ve never met…and there is a ‘bond and I do feel a sense of support from them. 8 THE SISTER HOOD | M AY 2017 TG: It’s very important to me. I don’t think that ANY women should be in competition with each other. We should all be cheering it other on and elevating each other to the next level at all times. JT: One of the great things I learned from Iyanla Van- zant is I am not my sister’s keeper, I am my sister. I think that is one of the greatest bonds I have in my life is my relationship with my female friends. I know it doesn’t matter what the conflict is, at the end of the day, men will kill each other before they come to a conclusion; but women, we’ll get together and order something to eat and we’re going to work it out. One of the greatest powers of women, at the end of the day, we will do what’s best for everyone. OVERCOMING FEAR TC: How I deal with fear? Poorly. That’s unfortunate, but I’m aware of it and consistently trying to become more courageous. When I’m confronted with fear I try first to understand it. TG: It’s just something you have to do. Even if you don’t know the outcome, sometimes you just have to take that leap. JT: When I do, I’ll let you know! Martin Luther King said “courage faces fear and thereby masters it. In every situation that’s my first thought. That gets me through the fear. LIVING ON PURPOSE TC: I’m always trying to figure that out. I think, as a rule, we have more than one purpose -- so for me, as long as I know I’m doing the best I can in any given situation, I am living on purpose. TG: Everyone has a purpose and a gift. Find out what it is and follow it. It is what is going to make you the happiest and with that, you are more likely to give back and give often because you are happy--inside AND outside. JT: Living on purpose is a life long journey. What I thought my purpose was ten years ago, it’s complete- ly different now. Living on purpose is being resilient, no matter how it ebbs and flows and how it changes; being able to be resilient and keep your purpose in mind. COMFORT ZONES TC: Book stores, libraries, beautiful spaces, art galler- ies and New York City. TG: I have many including my family and friends. I make new friends and acquaintances easily, but there are but a handful of people who TRULY know me. Also, there’s something that is reassuring about what you know already, but I am always open to new adventures and trying something new. I don’t turn anything down “just because”--I think about conse- quences before I step out on anything.... and FAITH is a huge part of that. JT: My family. The memories of my family, so much of my family has passed on. My greatest comfort zone. I was raised well. And I could always take solace in that, I may not do the best thing in that moment, but I know better. Even if I do the wrong thing, I recover well and I’m humble enough to ask for forgiveness when I’ve been wrong. Stepping out of your comfort zone is the only way to grow. It’s very, very, very hard. A therapist drew three circles - one is the circle of you, the outside circle was fear and the last circle was near death. She drew a line to the near death line and said this is where you want to be if you want to grow. As much as you want, you have to risk just as greatly. BOOKS THAT CHANGED YOUR LIFE TC: My devotional, Jesus Calling. It’s a great source of comfort and it’s helped me explore the bible more fully. Isabel Wilkerson’s The Warmth of Other Suns. It’s about the great migration and every American should read it, especially every Black American. Black Robes, White Justice by Judge Bruce Wright. The book is 30 years old and it’s still fascinating. TG: Catcher in the Rye, JD Salinger; The Color Purple, Alice Walker JT: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay is my main one, All God’s Children Need Traveling Shoes by Maya Angelou and the Bible, Volunteer Slavery by Jill Nelson. HOW DO YOU RELAX: TC: I hang out with my incredibly wonder- ful husband, H arold L. Young Jr.  We cook, watch movies and make each other laugh. I also take yoga classes and get massages. TG: Sleep in, read, go to the beach and just CHILL JT: Sleep THREE WORDS TO DESCRIBE YOURSELF TC: Three words, “I is kind, I is smaaaaaaart, I is important.” Seriously I am energetic, I’m resourceful and I’m compassionate. TG: Honest, loving, professional JT: Blessed, vivacious and developing WHERE DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN 10 YEARS? TC:  I can’t honestly answer that. I don’t think in terms of looking a decade ahead. TG: Oh gosh, I truly don’t look ahead. I have some plans, but I’m also a person who believes in living one day at a time and being in the moment. If you are al- ways looking towards the future, you can’t enjoy the right here, right now. JT: traveling the world, writing books with a syndicated feature chronicling the view from here – wherever that is then. THE SISTER HOOD | M AY 2017 9