The September Issue 2013 September 2013 | Page 113

RESUSCITATING YOUR RELATIONSHIP
refuse to flatline your love
So after scouring your city to find your perfect guy, going on date after date, donning various outfit changes to avoid wearing the same thing twice; you finally found the guy that is marriage material or could at least be more than a casual partner. The courting continues and you even pull out your little black dress on one of your dates. first step is to refocus on confidence building; spending more time with you by spending less time at his place. Set aside “me-time” to practice healthy activities of “self love”, giving yourself permission to be yourself “self acceptance” and to take care of yourself “self-respect”. The second step is to review and refocus on your personal and relationship goals. After you recall The communication moves beyond texts to late night phone calls and a little “skyping”. After about what your goals are initiate a mentally stimulating conversation with your partner. Rediscover a couple of months into the relationship, having spent a significant amount of time with one anoth- your partner’s personal and relationship goals. You should both assess whether or not you are on the er you find yourself at his place 50 percent of the same page or what compromises you are both willtime. You start to feel a bit more comfortable, the ing to make. Always keep the conversations menextensions that you wear to make your hair fuller tally stimulating by learning about one another’s you no longer wear and you walk around in your likes/dislikes and views on religion, politics, sex, old sweats. You come home to him from work, venting about the same things- your boss question- finances, current issues in the news, etc. ing your potential, nagging yet encouraging phone Now that you have resuscitated the internal flat calls from your mom, why you think your best line, you must resuscitate the external flat line. friend’s boyfriend isn’t the one for her, and the list Commence to wearing those extensions as you goes on. once did during the initial dating phase. When You begin to notice that your partner is acting dif- you do decide to visit your partner’s abode, swap the old sweats for lingerie or a silk robe. After full ferently and you are not sure why. Subconsciously resuscitation of the internal and external, keep the you are beginning to feeling unattractive and unrelationship alive - never stop the courtship. important. Is the “honeymoon” phase over? You sense that this could be the start of a downward spiral into a boring and predictable mode. Haaa.... even resurrecting that little Resuscitation needs to occur to avoid the flat line black dress on a spontaneous date night! that fatefully happens in most relationships. The
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