The Science Behind the Law of Attraction Magazine August, 2015 | Page 14

A Wil t ing Sex Lif e Doesn?t Have t o be Your Real it y!
By El l en Wood
Somehow our society has accepted the idea that when we

could be contradicting what you really want. Let me put it

get into middle age and beyond, sex becomes less exciting,

this way: your moment to moment thoughts are all

less pleasurable, less possible. And if that?s what people

affirmations, and affirmations can be negative too. If they

keep affirming, that?s what they get. It?s the Law of

are self-defeating thoughts, you?re accumulating quite a bit

Attraction at work.

of negative momentum.

A wilting sex life doesn?t have to be your reality and there

So catch yourself whenever you?re saying something

are scientific studies that prove this. We can still enjoy

negative about yourself or worrying about what might

passionate sex into our 80s and beyond. Lovemaking

happen as you get older. You can use those moments when

actually stirs up the life force within and can help us to

you catch yourself to turn the thought into a positive

grow younger.

affirmation. Let?s say you catch yourself thinking: I?ll never

Catching ourselves whenever old programming surfaces is
an important part of growing younger. Here?s one
?affirmation? that?s not expressed openly, but can be
subtly damaging our libido, Sex is a problem; I must be
getting old.
An unintentional affirmation works just as well as
intentional ones do. I keep forgetting where I put my glasses
is one of those. You might couch it in stronger terms than I
just did but remember, you are affirming something you
don?t want to do. The intensity of your feeling, in this case
frustration, and how often you say it, will determine the
magnitude of your manifestation. Your memory will most
likely become worse if you keep repeating that it?s always
forgetting things.
Intentional affirmations will not work to their full potential
unless you become aware of your mind chatter which
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be able to finish a Sudoku puzzle. Red flag goes up. Now is
your opportunity to create a positive affirmation: I?m
getting better at Sudoku all the time! This negates the
defeating thought and eventually you?ll have evidence that
you can finish a Sudoku.
Here?s an example of a mindless affirmation I heard in the
ladies room at the hotel in Albuquerque right before I gave
a keynote address for the New Mexico Department of
Aging. A woman was standing at the mirror next to me
fixing her hair and as she was leaving, she tossed over her
shoulder: I don?t know why I?m fussing. No man?s going to
look at me at my age. If that?s what she?s saying out loud,
you can bet her internal dialogue is not any nicer than that.
But she was wrong! She was a beautiful woman. Even if she
was only kidding, often saying is believing and the
negative ?affirmation?gets stuck in our subconscious mind
? and that?s exactly what we want to do with positive
affirmations.