and yet uniquely necessary for the survival and success of
humanity. His plan is that one man and one woman would be
attracted to and married to each other for a lifetime. People
are not born gay. However, as a result of the fall of mankind
into sin, every kind of abnormality has been introduced
into the human race. God did not create human beings to
have cancer, but this disease is now very common due to
the degeneration of the human race. Many people are born
genetically predisposed to cancer. This is not God’s original
plan, but it is the result of the curse of sin that permeates the
human race. Was I born this way? All of us are born with
areas of greater weakness and temptation as a result of sin.
Many men have struggled with the temptation to lust after
women who are not their wives. Were they born this way?
As a result of sin, yes. Did God create them to be adulterers?
Absolutely not. Will God wink at their sin or even bless their
sin just because they are strongly tempted to give into it?
Not at all! We never say, “Well, dad’s tempted to cheat on
mom so he ought to just give in and do it. That’s the only
way he can be true to himself.” No, we reject sin, and we
experience God’s help to overcome. We embrace the truth
of God, and the truth sets us free.
Many people have been born with the temptation of
same-sex attraction. Some men are born more effeminate,
and some woman are born more masculine. Others seem
perfectly normal on this scale, but for whatever reason
struggle with this. Unfortunately, the false teaching children
receive today, from the church and the world, often leaves
these children and young people in a no man’s land. Kids
often do not understand why they are having same-sex
attractions. If the church tells them they are messed up or
weird, they start to fear the church. If the world tells them
they are gay and should embrace that lifestyle or they can’t
be “who they really are,” they become totally confused.
We must stand strong on the Word of God. The homosex-
ual lifestyle is sinful and thus not productive, even destruc-
tive. However, we must compassionately listen and minister
to those who are struggling and help them understand that
even though they may not have consciously chosen to have
same-sex attractions, they must consciously choose to reject
acting on them.
Lastly, can a born-again believer struggle with this temp-
tation? Yes. Sinful desires do not only affect non-believers.
Jesus himself was tempted in the desert. However, it is
clearly stated in the Bible that homosexuality is not God’s
plan for us.
“If we do not teach
our children to
follow Christ, the
world will teach
them not to.”
We as evangelical Christians have bought into Satan’s
lies that once you have this attraction, there is no hope.
But God’s power can absolutely bring freedom from those
chains. We believe addicts can find freedom at the cross. We
believe adulterers can find freedom at the cross. We believe
that gossips can find freedom at the cross. Why do we not
believe homosexuals can find freedom at the cross? I am
living, breathing proof that no matter how far someone may
have sunk into a homosexual lifestyle, God can take you by
the hand and pull you out.
America, and in particular Christians in America, are
losing the battle against homosexuality. We don’t feel
comfortable addressing the sin with love, so we just choose
to ignore it and hope we don’t have to address it. God loves
all of us no matter what our sins may include. Satan has bril-
liantly infiltrated our way of thinking and dealing with this
particular sin. The only way to change the church’s view on
homosexuality is one Christ follower at a time.
After seeing the damage that a secular worldview can
inflict on a young believer, my husband and I have chosen
to sacrifice and send our children to a school that teaches
a biblical worldview. I want to ensure that my children are
receiving the same teaching when they are away from me as
when they are at home. If we do not teach our children to
follow Christ, the world will teach them not to.
Michelle Ramaker and her husband are small business
owners at Smith Mountain Lake in Moneta, VA. They are
on the leadership team for Celebrate Recovery at Eastlake
Community Church. Michelle is the Vice President of BNI
SML Business Connection. She says her most important
role is being the mother to four incredibly beautiful children.
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