Thoughtful Gentleman
by PG Team
We men are appalling at one major thing. Yes,
I can hear the cries of ‘Just One’ from ladies
around the world, but this one thing worries
me & the PG team more than anything and it
ripples are felt throughout modern manhood.
This one thing, is our inability to ask for help.
It can manifest in the trivial, such as the oft
cliched example of men never asking for
directions, no matter how lost.
The more common place is such things as not
seeking nor admitting they need help in
learning such things as life skills or
knowledge. This one we see here at PGHQ a
good deal, usually it manifests until it
becomes absolutely necessary to ask, which
can be too late.
And the more troubling and most
importantly, is when men have emotional
difficulties or more deep seated problems.
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The single biggest cause of death amongst
men under 45 in the UK, is suicide. It is in the
top three causes in North America and it is
the same in most countries in the western
world. It would be trite and simplistic of us to
think that suicide is solved by asking for help
or that inability to seek help is the root cause.
It is certainly a contributing factor.
No, what we are saying is that, we men need
to understand that we are not alone. That
every single person has problems, difficulties
and issues. That everyone struggles through
their issues. You are not alone. We all can use
a friendly ear and a supportive shoulder.
There is truth in cliches and the phrase that
‘no man is an island’, should be taken to heart.
We are not in the Victorian days of ‘stiff
upper lip’ and living by the maxim that a man
should not show his feelings. This is the 21st
century and we should have moved forward
but this sometimes feels not to be the case.