The Perfect Gentleman Issue 5 | Page 22

Mannered Gentleman Show some respect Finding the right words So how do we go about changing the image of the Brit abroad? The first tip, as always, is respect, and in this case, respect is grounded in understanding. Make sure that you have done enough research about the countries that you are visiting, to understand what the local culture is. Only if you know what the local norms of behaviour are, are you able to show them proper deference and respect so that you don't offend, or stick out like a sore thumb. Try to learn a little of the local language. Remember that anywhere you are in the world, English is not likely to be the native language. It is not, or should not be expected that everyone in the world speaks English, so it is up to you to make a little effort to aid communication. Talking louder and slower if the person you are talking to if they didn't understand you the first time is not acceptable, nor has it ever been. Umbrella or Sunglasses? Having a drink is all part of relaxing for many Brits, whether in the UK or abroad, but being drunk is very ungentlemanly, and being so drunk that you are falling over and being sick is unacceptable almost anywhere in the world. Everyone wants to have a good time on holiday, and everyone wants holidaymakers to have a good time, and a good impression of where they live, but no one wants to have to deal with those who have drunk so much that they become loud, ill or aggressive. Have a good time, but everything in moderation. Know the show stoppers This research also applies to any sites that you might visit, be they historical or cultural. If you accidentally stumble into one of the 900+ World Heritage Sites, then you have missed an opportunity to appreciate the story of that site's history and cultural significance. In the same vein, any historical, cultural or social events that are going on in the place you are visiting could well be the highlight of your trip. If you were visiting Mexico at the end of October, and were unaware of the Día de Meurtos, you could be missing out on a fabulous experience. 22 Learn about the climate of the place you are visiting. If you are looking for a holiday in a hot sunny country, make sure that you have not booked in the rainy season. If you are looking for that spot of sunshine, take sun cream with you, and use it, break yourself into the sunshine gently. Depending on your skin type, it can take as few as 10 minutes for unprotected skin to start burning if the UV index is high enough, so make sure that your skin is always protected. Keep applying your sun cream, and moisturise well. Your skin will tan, but not burn as long as you don't over do it. Dress for success Keep your tanning to the beach, or the pool. At all other times, you will need to dress appropriately. If you are in a culture that normally covers the body or the head, make sure that you are covered appropriately. Cover your head when visiting places of worship, and keep the Union Jacks to the minimum.