I
Flirting in the
office turned sour
am single girl who is in her early
20s. I recently got a job at a very
promising company; I can see
myself standing on my own feet. I
used to have a boyfriend who was taking
care of all my needs but l ended it with
him, I wanted to have space.
I have a male co-worker whom I
have been talking to for the past two
months that I have been employed at
this organization. It so happened that
I developed feelings for this guy and it
appeared as if he was developing feelings
for me as well.
We started flirting and he was
responding, we seemed to have feelings
for each other as we could talk for hours,
smile at each other, buy each other lunch
and even miss each other though no one
was in a position to tell. No one was
confident enough to explain what was
happening between us. At one point we
kissed when everyone else was out of the
office.
From this incident onwards I thought
he was all mine, and that we are having
a relationship just like any other people
only that we didn’t open up about it.
I started joking around with the truth
saying, he is my boyfriend telling other
workmates.
Little did I know that there are other
girls looking at him with the same eye I
was looking at him with? In other words
this guy has been flirting with other girls,
which is the same situation which was
happening to me but I thought mine was
a unique one.
I feel cheap, betrayed and used. I can’t
stand to see other girls all over him. I
am hurt I thought we had a something
going on which was going to develop and
become love.
Should I go to him and tell him how
I feel, or tell these other girls that he is
mine. Maureen, Norton
VaChihera’s answer
Dear Maureen
It’s good that you feel cheap and used,
because you are. I don’t know what
made you leave your boyfriend, now I
am beginning to doubt your reason of
wanting space; you wanted to be with
your work-mate right?
My dear why would you stoop so low,
what made you think you were going to
win his heart? A girl should at least have
some pride to let a guy walk up to her
not to be all over him for nothing. Stop
lying to yourself that he doesn’t have the
confidence to tell you about his feelings,
he doesn’t want you.
Admit it, it was just an infatuation.
Confronting to him is a bad idea, just try
to ignore the obsession you were having
and move on. If he really wants you he
will come around.
I hope this is a lesson learnt in future
you don’t just leave people that you have
been dating because you think you have
found the ones you are attracted to. By
the way what did you mean by
saying I can stand on my own?
Don’t tell me you had that man
so that he can take care of your
needs only and nothing else.
Before you go around
looking for love,
first love yourself
dear, so that you
don’t end up
throwing yourself
at everyman you
come across and
hurting yourself at the
end of the day.
TP
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