The New Wine Press June 2018 | Page 10

Reflections from Precious Blood Volunteers Tim Deveney, Precious Blood Volunteers Director, asked this year’s volunteers to answer three questions: 1. What is/are some relationship(s) that have stood out for you during your time as a Precious Blood Volunteer? 2. What are some of the experiences that have stood out for you during your time as a Precious Blood Volunteer? 3. How have you grown during your time as a Precious Blood Volunteer? The following are their answers. Leah Landry, pbmr My most impactful rela- tionship as a Precious Blood Volunteer has been with the first young woman I met at pbmr. Meeting and getting to know her throughout the year completely changed my world- view. She is a 23-year-old young woman who was born and raised on the south side of Chicago. I am a 23-year-old young woman who was born and raised in the suburbs of Chicago. By becoming friends with this woman, I see first- hand how the system is set up in a way that allowed me to go to college and start my career while it has hindered her at every turn. She is determined, however, and it has been an honor to walk with her as she got a job, found housing and daycare, and dedicates her whole life to making sure her three-year-old daughter can have a better one. I’ve witnessed her fight to get a job for three months until she finally secured a good one. I’ve driven her to the hospital twice—once as her sister gave birth to twins and once when her boyfriend was shot at on his way to work. I’ve watched her parent her extremely energetic three-year-old, even when she’s exhausted from working six days a week and cannot possibly answer the question “Whatcha doin’?” one more time. Getting to know this young woman has personalized a life that I only knew from statistics about gun violence and poverty. Her friendship has given me a whole new perspective on the challenges people face in Back of the Yards, the strengths of the community that we tend to overlook, and on my own upbringing and privileges I’d once taken for granted. I am so grateful for her friend- ship and for continued patience as I learned and grew and tried to understand as best I could. 8 • The New Wine Press • June 2018 I have worked at pbmr for nine months. In that time, two of the young people at the Center have been shot and killed. These experiences, especially the death of Branden a month ago, have shaken me. Branden was the first young person I met at the Center. He was at the Center almost every day and was always the first guy to greet me when I walked in. I knew that the young people were in danger every time they walk outside, but I don’t think the reality of that hit me until Sr. Donna told me that Branden was dead. Branden—who had been at the Center a few hours before, who had shared his Doritos with me just a day before, who’s bright smile and beautiful dreads were such a common sight that I’d started not to notice—was dead. Shot and killed in his grandma’s backyard. The fragility of life has never been that close to me before. For someone younger than me—and healthy and strong and so full of life—to be dead was incom- prehensible. And not just dead but murdered. It seems different somehow than someone who dies from a sickness or even a freak accident. It was intentional and cruel and unnecessary. I’m not sure I’ve even fully accepted Branden’s death yet. Every time I see his photo I have to remind myself that he’s gone, that he’s not going to come back. I’ve heard about the shootings in Chicago my whole life. But first with Isaiah and then with Branden, I see that these events are not just statistics. It’s a trauma that affects so many lives. And if Branden’s death has shaken me this much, what must it be like for the people who have known him his whole life, who have grown up in the neighborhood and experienced countless other murders, and who don’t have the choice to leave as I do? Gun violence in Chicago no longer feels like a hot but- ton political discussion. It has a face and a name and an experience for me. The memories of Branden and Isaiah will stay with me long after I leave the Center.