1.Make sure your potential team members know the victim. Mention the tvictim in passing to another friend to find out if they are already acquainted. If they don’t, introduce them after giving the standard “fair warning” about the victim in advance. Something based on the truth but not outright nasty, such as “she always wears these tiny T-shirts, I wish I could get away with it but I wouldn’t let my belly hang out like that!” just to test the waters with your friend. If the friend agrees with your comment after meeting the target, you have successfully planted the seeds for gossip. If she mentions something else SHE noticed about the target, you may have a team mate! TIP: Bringing up parts of conversation with the friend later will further establish a gossip girl team mate, especially if the friend shares similar traits as yourself, such as low-self esteem, body image issues, or narcissism.
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STEP TWO:
Getting a Team Together
•The Snitch/Bitch- When you embellish a little, she may or may not agree with you. She questions your motives and is preparing to expose you to the victim. TIP: Avoid being snitched on by keeping the gossip based on half-truths until you are CERTAIN someone isn't a snitch. That way, if the target tries to confront you, you can easily claim you were just "chatting with a mutual friend out of concern."
•The Sheep/Next Target - Though a bit two faced, sheep are great supporters, but weak minded and easily manipulated. Ultimately they will do everything possible to avoid confrontation, so they’re great to have on your side. Find their weaknesses by using the same tactics as with your target, and you may even have a new target to groom once you’re done with the first girl. They have little opinion of their own, relying mostly on others to tell them what to think and feel. NOTE: It’s highly entertaining to watch when these types get confused and forget they are friends with the target, and later, you can use what the “friends” have said back in the target’s face!
•The Gossip Girl – She’s under the impression that you are her friend, even while you’re telling the REST of your social circle that she’s an abusive mother with an eating disorder. Give her every opportunity to gossip with you about everyone else, and earn her trust. WARNING: Even though you might quickly feel at ease with another girl like yourself, be VERY careful what you share with her if you don’t want everyone that knows you to be whispering behind your back about your secret weight loss surgery.
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2.Test the people in your mutual social circle. If you aren’t sure if the friend is a gossip girl, there are ways to find out where she fits into the gossip game. If she's not an easy target, she might be one of the following:
Did You Know?
making other people look bad makes you look good in comparison!