CHANGING YOUR THOUGHT PROCESS
His Divine Eminence Gohar Shahi
declares, ‘Neither the superiority
complex nor the inferiority
complex is good for you.’
SO WHAT SHOULD WE DO?
To protect ourselves from becoming
victims of emotional complexes, His Divine
Eminence Gohar Shahi advises us to be
level-headed and realistic. When you
do something wrong, apologise and try
to not repeat the same mistakes again.
Remember that no one is perfect; your
mistakes are not reasons to feel self-
loathing. When you do something good,
acknowledge it and appreciate it as a
blessing.
His Holiness Younus AlGohar explains
that the way to steer emotional complexes
in the right direction is being grateful
to the Lord. He states, ‘All our emotions
should always be based on this line that
any goodness that we have today is from
our Lord.’
When you keep your thoughts and
emotions balanced this way, you’ll
successfully maintain a complex-free life.
MESSIAH HERALD / ISSUE 05 / JUN 2017
What we pay attention to directly affects our
emotions. If we can learn to direct our thoughts
and attention towards constructive elements in
our lives, we can further protect ourselves from
emotional complexes.
Normally, people feel disposed to thinking
that to move forward in life, they need to focus
on resolving issues of the past. They believe
that by ruminating on emotional scars, they will
eventually achieve true happiness.
However, whether you are thinking about the
past or the future, your emotions right now will
be a reaction to what you are concentrating on.
Fixating on painful memories will result in
you feeling that same trauma in the present
moment that you experienced in the past. It is like
reopening a wound before it ever gets the chance
to heal.
Most of the time, we’re unaware that we’re
thinking negatively. If you’re concentrating on
something unpleasant, it is almost impossible
for you to then think positively. You can’t be
negative and positive at the same time. That’s
why those who are depressed tend to see a more
depressing world.
In a similar way, you might notice that by
imagining hypothetical future situations, you give
yourself anxiety. You start to experience fear and
self-doubt. Remember that the future has not
occurred yet; by focusing on an unwanted future,
you’re only robbing yourself of happiness in the
present day!
Your attention is so precious; it should be
treasured. By consciously shifting your attention
to the positive things in your life, you can control
- and improve - your own mood.
TIP: HH Younus AlGohar advises, ‘Only apply your
attention to things that need your attention and it will
be fruitful for you in life.’
To help you decide what deserves your attention,
categorise your life according to two things: what you want
and what you don’t want.
For example, betrayal, the death of someone you care
about, financial loss or breakups are all things you don’t
want. Celebrations, spending time with close friends,
achieving a milestone in your life - these are all things you
do want.
You’ll know whether something is what you want by how
you feel when you think about it.
In the beginning, you’ll have to train your mind to
stop thinking about the things you don’t want and start
concentrating on the things you do want. The more you
do this, the quicker positive thinking will become second
nature to you.
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