EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
EQ & IQ
How Thoughts Affect
Your Emotions
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN
Are you falling prey to a toxic mindset?
The first thing we need to know
when trying to understand
emotions is how we come to feel
what we feel.
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MOTIONS ARE, OFTENTIMES, A
set of reactions to what we experience - or
more specifically, how we perceive our
experiences.
A majority of people in your life will exhibit
both positive and negative reactions to the
situations they encounter. You’ve probably
also seen some people who are more inclined
towards showing positive emotions. On the other
hand, some people are predisposed to reacting
negatively.
If you look at the spiritual aspect of the matter,
negative emotions come from the negative
source in you. Positive emotions will come from
an enlightened heart and a conscious soul. 1
So generally speaking, someone who has
managed to enlighten his heart and awaken his
soul is more likely to exhibit positive emotions.
Those with a stronger Carnal Self (Ego) are more
likely to exhibit negative reactions since the
Carnal Self is the negative source in every human
being.
Beyond this, your mindset will greatly
influence what you feel and how you react.
Isaac Newton said, ‘For every action, there
is an equal and opposite reaction.’ This applies
to emotions as well. Think of emotions as the
rebound that takes place when you throw a
tennis ball at a wall.
Suppose you are browsing the internet on
your iPhone and someone asks you, ‘What are
1 Learn how to enlighten your heart and revive your soul through the
method introduced by HDE Gohar Shahi on page 10.
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What is going on in your brain?
you doing?’
You’re
having a bad
day, so
you misjudge
their tone
and choose
to believe
that they are
talking to
you accusingly.
On their
end, it was but
an innocent
question that
resulted in an
unexpected reaction.
This is how your
mindset leads you to misinterpret the words
and actions of others. In this case, both the
‘action’ (the perception that they were talking
to you accusingly) and the reaction (you feeling
defensive) took place in your mind.
You may have noticed that some people
could be sitting in solitude and unruffled peace
surrounds them, yet they display seemingly
unsolicited emotions. They’ll be quiet and
suddenly they will cry or laugh. This is because
they are not reacting to their environment, but
their own thoughts.
How you’re thinking and what you are thinking
about directly impacts the emotions you feel.
If you think about something pleasant, that
pleasant thought will have a reaction: you’ll feel
happy. If you think about something nasty, you’ll
start to feel horrible emotionally. From there,
it is a slippery slope; if you continue to think
negatively, you will eventually dig yourself into
depression.
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HE IQ (INTELLIGENCE QUOTIENT)
level is all about putting every piece of
information in your conscious mind. For
example, you walked through a street. When you
walked through the street, what did you see and
did you think about it? That is what your IQ level
will be judged upon. However, how you react
to what you see is determined by your level of
emotional intelligence (EQ).
His Holiness Younus AlGohar notes, ‘The
relation between emotions and intelligence:
the ability to identify something is intelligence
and to react is emotions. The IQ level, when not
accompanied by the EQ (emotional quotient) level,
is zero.’
Meaning that even if you are a genius
according to every IQ test out there, if you do
not know how to react to the situations that
you encounter in an emotionally intelligent way,
your IQ will prove useless for you in the most
important aspects of life.
For example, if someone is able to sit and
sleep peacefully in an untidy, dirty and stinky
bedroom, then perhaps their emotional sensory
system is lacking. Had they been responsive, they
would have reacted to the state of the room.
Another scenario in which a lack of emotional
intelligence is evident: something has fallen on
the floor in a restaurant kitchen. All the workers,
rather than picking it up, prefer to step over
it and be on their way. If something is lying on
the floor and their minds are not telling them to
pick it up and put it safely to the side, there is
something wrong with their EQ level.
If you see someone or something beautiful
and you do not show appreciation by commenting
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or allowing yourself to consciously register
the spectacle, you may need to work on your
emotional intelligence. If you see something and
there is no reaction, you’re suppressing your
soul!
Along the same lines, part of being
emotionally intelligent is making sure to convey
your emotions to others in the right context. If
someone has done a favour for you, it is your
moral obligation to show your thankfulness.
Some people might think that by coldly saying,
‘Thank you,’ they have done enough to show
their appreciation. However, appreciation is
an exhibition of emotions. In this case, it is
important to let the other person know, through
your emotions, that you are grateful to them.
‘If a human being doesn’t have emotions,
in my eyes, there is no difference between
them and a cabbage. When there is something
that should awaken your senses, and still
your senses are not awakened, then you are
emotionally dead. When your emotions are dead
and your brain is not responding, you cannot
obtain divine love. It is impossible.’ - HH Younus
AlGohar
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