EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
“We are civilised people
who respect humanity. We
cannot be cowed by lunatics
who practise the hateful
ideology of death.”
Handling Setbacks
Effectively
Some people seek isolation when they are
emotionally down and become hostile to those
around them. They don’t want to talk to people.
This won’t help because it shuts the door to any
help that may come to them and, chances are, it’ll
push them deeper into depression.
First and foremost, if you think that you’re the
only one in the world who has a problem, you are
severely mistaken. Remind yourself that every
single person in this world is laden with trouble;
but the thing is, everybody thinks his pain is
greater than everybody else’s. If you are sad,
seek a solution and always leave a door open for
someone to come and help you.
What does it mean to be under pressure? You
go under pressure when you know your problem
and get frustrated.
There are two types of frustration: original
and false. Sometimes you get frustrated when
you have a problem that you are working to
resolve, and despite your best efforts, you fail.
That is when you are justified to be frustrated.
However, sometimes, before even exhausting
all avenues to solve your problem, you impose
frustration upon yourself prematurely. This is
false frustration and a lot of people fall prey to it.
When religious people fall prey to false
frustration, they go to their worship places and
say, ‘God, help me.’ Following this, they lose trust
in God because God does not help those who are
not genuinely in need of his help.
It is a common belief in Christianity that
God helps those who want to help themselves.
[PROVERBS 12:24; 13:4]
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HH Younus AlGohar, therefore,
advises, ‘Only pray to God for help
when you cannot help yourself.’
When you have tried everything and now
you are truly helpless, that is when you suffer
from original frustration. It is only at this stage
that the Lord’s help comes. For spiritual people
who are connected to the Lord, there is no room
for frustration in their lives. Frustration is a
condition where there is nobody to help you.
However, those connected to HDE Gohar Shahi
need never suffer from frustration.
‘Make as much effort as it is required. If,
even after everything you have done to resolve
the problem, there is no result and you are
clueless and feel helpless, then call upon HDE
Gohar Shahi. I guarantee that you will be helped
straight away. When the Lord’s help arrives,
there is jubilance, not frustration.’ - HH Younus
AlGohar
Before allowing frustration to overwhelm
your mind, try to remain calm so that you can
solve the problem. Be reasonable, give yourself
some perspective and tell yourself that your
issue is not the end of the world. Then, weigh
your options and calculate what you must do in
order to resolve the issue.
After your calculations, you know what to do.
When you know that something can be achieved,
keep cool. You should be worried when you
know it cannot be done. There is no problem that
cannot be solved!
MESSIAH HERALD / ISSUE 04 / MAY 2017
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