The Mahdi Times The Mahdi Times, Issue #27, February 2015 | Page 21

unmanageable and cool when
the summer heat starts to stick.
Similarly, a spouse alleviates
distress, encourages positive
growth and God willing, brings
you closer to Him.
Regardless of the situation at
hand, a spouse is supposed to
be that layer of comfort a
cardigan gives you on a chilly
winter night.
A couple should be tied together
tightly such that they are able to
openly express their love and
commitment as well as protect
each other’s secrets.
Your partner should be your
best friend for life.
Many couples fall into the rut of
blaming their partner for all the
issues that may come up.
If it’s an overcooked dinner or a
large bill that was not attended
to, it is quite easy to pick a fight
and prepare for battle.
This is not the best solution to
dealing with differences, which
are part and parcel of a
marriage.
The Prophet (s.a.w) has said,
“There is nothing worse for
human beings than to seek the
faults of others, while ignoring
their own flaws” (Bihar alAnwar, vol 73, p 385).

Before you fall into the trap of
pointing the finger at your
partner, turn it around first and
you will probably figure out
that everyone makes mistakes.
By singling out your spouse, you
mentally destruct the bridge
that a marriage creates between
two people.
Eventually, the day (and night!)
turns into a ‘you’ versus ‘me’
attack that is sure to lead to a
downward spiral.