T
he major dilemma is when one
spouse believes and another
disbelieves. This actually
happened to such a great extent that
the women who believed escaped their
homes and menfolk and flocked to the
Prophet (sawas) in Madina, resulting in
the following verse, an amendment to
the treaty of Hudaibiyyag, being
revealed:
“O ye who believe! when come unto
you believing women refugees,
then ye examine them; God knoweth
best their faith; and if ye find them
to be believing women, return ye
not them unto the disbelievers;
neither these women are lawful for
them, nor are those men lawful for
them…” (Qur’an, Surah
Mumtahina 60:10)
Ibn Abbas is reported to have said:
The exam or interrogation of
immigrant women was thus, that the
women should confess and admit that:
“I pledge and assure here that I
have not migrated out of grudge
against my husband, or out of
desire and inclination toward the
new land or for gaining worldly
coveted objects or profits, but the
only purpose and goal for which I
migrated being love to God and the
Prophet.”
Families were broken, and it was for
the sake of Allah s.w.t. This is a
concept which cannot be understood
by those who literally worship the
family bond. Those servants of Allah
s.w.t who see their family as a gift from
Allah s.w.t to be utilized in the way of
Allah s.w.t are those who can
comprehend the courage of the wife of
Firon. The perseverance of the mother
of Muhammad ibn Abu Bakr. The
suffering of daughter of Abu Sufyan,
Umm e Habiba. The pain of the wife
of Yazeed.
Daughter of Uqbah ibn Abi
Mu`ayt:
Umm e Kulthoom was the daughter of
this opponent of the Prophet s.a.w.w.
Uqbah ibn Abi Mu`ayt opposed the
Prophet (sawas) in the most vocal
ways. He was one of those who said to
Abu Talib (as) at the beginning of his
Prophetic mission that the Prophet
(sawas) should be killed. He was sent
by the Quraysh to the People of the
Book in an attempt to prove that the
Prophet Muhammad (sawas), did not
fit the criteria of being the awaited
Prophet. When Uqbah brought the
questions then He (sawas) answered
them all. Yet Uqbah defied him. The
Ansar can recognize the same
characteristic in those who oppose alYamani (as) today. They work so hard
to disprove him, and then failing, that
they become more enraged. He then
tormented the Prophet (sawas) so
much and so continuously that he was
cursed by Lady Fatima (as) and the
Prophet (sawas).
In the book Dala'ilu'n‑Nubuwwah (of
al‑Bayhaqi), it is reported on the
authority of Abu Dawud who reported
from Shu'bah who reported from Abu
Ishaq (as‑Sabi`i), who heard `Amr ibn
Maymun relate on the authority of
`Abdullah (ibn Mas'ud), who said:
“While the Messenger of Allah was
prostrating in prayer one day, with
some men of Quraysh sitting all
around him, and the birth sack of a
she‑camel lying around, some dared
others men saying: `Who would
take this birth sack and throw it at
his back?' A man called `Uqbah ibn
Abi Mu'ayt took up the birth sack
and threw it at the Prophet's back.
Fatimah (the Prophet's daughter)
came and took the camel's birth
sack off the Prophet's back, and
cursed those who did that to him.”
`Abdullah continued: “I never saw
the Messenger of Allah s.w.t invoke
Allah s.w.t against them except on
that day.
He said: “O Allah s.w.t, I leave to
you the people of Quraysh! O Allah
s.w.t. to you do I leave Abu Jahl ibn
Hisham, `Utbah ibn Rabi `ah,
Shaybah ibn Rabi `ah, `Uqbah ibn
Abi Mu'ayt, Umayyah ibn Khalaf or
Ubayy ibn Khalaf (Shu'bah was
confused). The Prophet (sawas)
enumerated seven men in all.”
`Abdullah went on: “I saw them all
slain in the Battle of Badr and
thrown into a well. Umayyah ibn
Khalaf, however, was a very fat
man. His body disintegrated as it
was dragged along before reaching
the well.' (1)
He was one of those who mocked the
Prophet (sawas) for being without sons
until Surah Kawther was revealed
calling them "abtar", a curse from
Allah Himself.
In all this, his daughter Umme
Kulthoom accepted Islam. Her story is
as follows.
“I used to go the outskirts of
Makkah near the wilderness to
visit some relatives of ours who
lived there and would stay with
them for about 3 to 4 days. This was
my habit from time to time. My
family didn’t mind because they
knew I used to stay at our relatives’
house.
So one day, I finally intended to
make the Hijrah to Madina. I acted
as if I were coming out to
wilderness to go to my relatives’
place as was my usual habit. In this
way, my family would never
suspect that I was a Muslim and
wanted to migrate to Madina to the
Prophet (sawas).
So I left Makkah, and on my way, a
strange man suddenly appeared in
front of me asking where I was
headed to. I became afraid, so I
asked him why he wanted to know,
and who he was. He told me that he
was from the tribe of Khuza`ah, so
I was relieved because the tribe of
Banu Khuza`ah had accepted
Islam at the hands of the Prophet
(sawas). I told him that I had
accepted Islam and that I intended
to make the Hijrah to Rasulullah
(sawas) and that I wasn’t so