Many folks here are fixated on the wrong things: beauty, youth, money, power - an obsession that doesn’t lend itself to healthy relationships. Oh, and a lot of the guys here wear designer jeans, which is just plain gross.
If you could give one piece of advice to the other single ladies out there what would it be?
Remember that not everyone is going to like you, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re not fabulous. It’s just that not everyone wants the same thing.
I admit I love how you post about sex and you tell it like it is, many people, especially women, I think mistake sex for love. What is your thoughts on that?
Well, I don’t think I’ve ever mistaken sex for love, so it’s hard for me to know what that’s about. I do, however, realize that sex can amplify a woman’s feelings for a man, and I’m no stranger to that. If the sex doesn’t suck, of course.
It took me awhile to realize that men possess the enviable ability to have sex with no effect on their feelings whatsoever. It really is, in most cases, different for men than for women. I only learned a few years ago about this little evil hormone called oxytocin, aka “the bonding hormone.” It basically makes you feel more connected to your mate. It is released during sex in both men and women, but oxytocin levels are much higher in women. So we shouldn’t really beat ourselves up if we feel attached to someone after sex, it’s just kind of our nature. We SHOULD, however, know ourselves enough to understand that this might happen, and if you fear it might, perhaps refrain from having sex until you are pretty damn sure the guy is really into you. Unless you yourself just want a roll in the hay and know you can handle it. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can handle it when really you can’t - I’ve done that, too. Be SURE you can handle it. Then go for it.