The Soft Issue
August 2017
Story from Outside
my parents I wanted to study Music. So I went with
the bold and utterly ambitious choice, Medicine. I
studied Music up till it was time for the West African
Examination Council papers and I could not hang on
anymore. Up till now I have interesting ideas for what
I could/would do with music. Up till now, I still peak
at Hans Zimmer’s scores (I wrote my own scores up
till about 5 years ago). Regret #4.
There are different types and classes of regret. We
all have them. But I have learned two major lessons
from the most painful of them.
1. Nike! When it comes to many types
actions and decisions, I have learned to assess
my inhibitions by weighing what I would gain if I
succeeded, what I would lose if I didn’t try. That’s my
definition of Risk Assessment. My life is splattered
with many good intentions. I intend more than ever
living with those intentions. Just do it! says the Nike
slogan and I will remember.
2. Staying in the moment: While we have those
regrets, it’s not wise or meaningful to live in
those regrets. There are opportunities, always
opportunities, to right wrongs. Looking back to the
past has a hold on our feet and moving forward
becomes a drag. Sometimes it’s just better to
untangle regrets and press forward to those good
intentions.
Easier said, I still wish I had made that call. But
moving on, I am realigning my priorities when it
comes to relationships, especially with family. I am
particularly glad that I made the unusual decision to
travel all the way to my grandma’s last year to spend
two days with her. Something I had never done
before.
“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes.
Don’t resist them. That only creates sorrow. Let reality
be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever
way they like.” — Lao Tzu
Seye Kuyinu is an alumni of the University
of Ilorin. He is presently a life coach at
Highlifer. Read more of his stories on www.
highlifer.co/
follow him on Twitter @Seye
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