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KHARISMA MAGAZINE { PREMIER ISSUE 2018 }
Kharisma: Your purposeful body of work, as I call it, is to help men. Share a little bit about your journey and what led you to this point that you decided I want to work with men and I want to help them and I want to really guide them to be the best version of themselves.
Anushka: Alright, so I’ m just going to give you a quick snapshot view of my childhood. I grew up in an Indian family. So, huge male energy, influence, and dominance. I very quickly understood what the role of a man and a woman is, from the eyes of an Indian household. However, I grew up in Spain, in Barcelona. At school, I was taught sort of the Western way of the role of the woman and the man, which is a lot more equal than it is in the Eastern society. Quote, unquote.
There was a lot of confusion growing up. There was a lot of chaos in my mind. To add to that, from the age of 8 I started to gain a lot of weight. So I was not particularly popular with the girls in school, whereas, the guys embraced me and I just became a buddy of theirs. A combination of all of the things that happened in my life quickly allowed me to understand men very well.
At school, obviously, I understood what guys spoke about. At home, I understood what the role of a man is in the household, and that he is meant to bring money in. I also understood that as a woman I... If I wanted to really achieve all my dreams and goals, I had to make money for that. Like, nothing came free. I had to work for it and make money for it. So a combination of all of these things led me to dream really big.
I wanted to come to London, which is a place I visited to study my degree. My hunger for my desires brought me back to London to want to make money. Coupled with all the knowledge I had about men and all the sorts of close, male friendships I had developed over my teenage years and over my adulthood made me realize that I felt like a total man in a woman’ s body. Over the course of years when I was in London and spent a lot of time on my own, all the suppressed emotions came up to surface, because I was a very emotional child. However, that child, that inner child of mine was suppressed for many years, and all her emotions as well.
Everything came to surface in London when I was living on my own and sort of had more time to think, and deal with my own stuff. A few years ago, I hit rock bottom, in December 2012. I was really unhappy and I was extremely overweight. That’ s when I realized something had to change in my life. A few months later I got introduced to The Law Of Attraction.
I used The Law of Attraction principles and mindset to lose weight, really, and work on myself and become a better person. Over the course of the years, I realized... Okay, I am definitely destined to help people because this is really powerful work. Then I started as a health coach. I started my coaching practice as a health coach for weight loss. Through that journey and doing the own deep work myself, in March 2016, I realized after working with a few clients here and there and always keeping my coaching practice open to both men and women... I actually attract a lot of guys to talk to so I knew that I was going to sign up with a couple of clients here and there that were male... I realized that I got along with men.
I understood them. They wanted to learn from me. We have too many Queens in the world and not enough Kings. And I thought, why not work with men? It’ s almost like it called me, versus I called it.
In 2016, I started to attract a lot of male friends in my life. A lot of male friends asking for support, guidance. I literally, like, my close group of friends was all guys. That made me realize, okay, I’ m helping them, you know, and its working. They’ re actually resonating a lot more than women. I was having challenges to attract female clients. So, I was like” Why not go with what’ s working?”
Eventually, I came up with the idea of empowering men. I’ m extremely passionate about it. I think it’ s very necessary in the world. When I see an empowered man, I don’ t only see an empowered man. I don’ t only see a King who is living a luxurious lifestyle in his castle or in his mansion with his family. I see beyond that. When I see an empowered man, I firstly see an empowered son, an empowered husband, an empowered father, an empowered brother, an empowered cousin, an empowered boss. So, I see all of the roles that a man fulfills in his lifestyle from the moment he grows up to the moment he effectively leaves this physical world.
I see empowerment in all of those roles. A man who is empowered to deal with his own instincts, to understand himself better, to understand what is expected of him, to understand his role better- he is going to be extremely successful in life. He’ s going to learn how to live his life to his fullest potential. So, I see a lot beyond just an empowered man who is consciously aware of