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{ PREMIER ISSUE 2018 } KHARISMA MAGAZINE
51
BY: VANESSA MENTOR
Meet Vanessa Mentor, a customer experience strategist & spiritual seeker. She teaches soul – driven female entrepreneurs how to create powerful connections with their clients and grow their business by tapping into their feminine power and soul purpose. Her business is all about holding a safe space for women entrepreneurs to reconnect with their true self so they can be generous and compassionate enough to share their gifts and truth with the world.
------------------------------------------------------------------- I’ m in my office, staring at the computer. I’ m lost in thought and wondering what my life would look like if I were living my dreams: I’ m running a business that I love and I’ m making a difference in women’ s lives; I work 4 days a week; money is no longer a source of stress and anxiety. I finally can gift my Mom the cruise she’ s been dreaming of doing. Life feels good.
I got clear. I no longer wanted to be the“ corporate warrior”, because the way I show up in one area of my life, is the way I show up in every other area. Indeed, I bring the energy of a man in my love life. I’ m the doer, the go – getter, the one making the decisions without giving her partner the space to embrace his role. I’ m more the father than the mother for my daughter. I decided that it was time for me to take serious action and find my way out.
BE ICONIC
The more I stayed in that soul – sucking job, the less chance I would have to step into my feminine flow, my nurturing and soft side. It was no longer working for me. But, here’ s the dilemma: I’ m not yet ready to make the leap and run my business full time.
So, naturally, I find myself in that transition period and trying to be creative with it. At first it was overwhelming and stressful. I had to find a happy medium between a full time job, taking care of a four year old and the house, launching a new business, getting into a new relationship and taking care of myself. I knew I could not make any changes, if I did not decide to make a mental shift from corporate warrior to soul – driven CEO. Embracing my soul meant I had to slow down, ask for help and support when I was crawling under the struggle, the pain. I had to put myself first and believe that I would arrive at the destination no matter how many times I stopped during the drive. I had to accept that this transformation was not going to happen overnight and agree to navigate through it as best as I could.
Besides the mindset work, here are some other practical ways I’ m personally making my time within the corporate structure tolerable until I build the platform to leap on to:
1. Pay attention to the signs
Life is happening whether I’ m conscious of it or not. Buried under the multitude of obligations, I sometimes ignore or fail to hear the whispers of my inner wisdom telling me that I need to slow down, take a different route: To change direction. The feminine energy is all about honouring the natural flow of life and being attentive to the subtle changes. I’ m in the habit of asking myself these three questions regularly: