All I Want
Is a GPS Relationship!
No more OMG chemistry that leads to WTF relationships and tons of SOS calls to my sponsor and recovery partners!
Dating sucks! I’ve been on almost every dating website out there. (Although, I’m very proud to say I never went on any of the more shady websites. But that’s precisely what my sex and love addiction wants me to do. )
Once I got into the program, I settled into eHarmony. It seemed to have the least amount of insanity involved and it seemed to trigger my addiction the least.
Nevertheless, it is challenging. After tons of first dates that were not followed by a second, I’ve come to one conclusion: No more OMG chemistry that leads to WTF relationships and tons of SOS calls to my sponsor and recovery partners! No more!
Now all I’m looking for is GPS chemistry that leads me to a Graceful, Peaceful and Serene relationship with a quality man.
With GPS chemistry, I’m still attracted to the man, but not so much that I want to leap over the table and into his lap while he’s still buttering his bread. OMG chemistry is crazy-making and sets me completely off balance to the point where I can’t even sleep at night because I’m thinking about him so much. It usually triggers all the magical thinking that I have to work hard in my recovery to avoid.
GPS chemistry is self-loving. It gives me the ability to honor my #1 bottom line for dating: To stay grounded in reality and in my own life. GPS chemistry is calming and stable. It allows me to continue to work my program, live my life to its fullest and still look forward to the next date. GPS chemistry truly guides me in the direction that is best for me instead of me getting lost in the insanity of dating.
How much chemistry there is between me and someone I’m dating plays a significant role in my recovery. OMG chemistry does not support me in my recovery. It is very distracting. GPS chemistry empowers me to be the best woman I can be and to act like a lady so that I can attract the best man for me in my recovery.
Ultimately my Higher Power is in charge of this GPS chemistry instead of me. With this kind of chemistry, it is easy for me to stay connected and let my Higher Power guide me. It is easy for me to surrender my will and my life when the relationship begins with chemistry that is graceful, peaceful and serene.
— ANONYMOUS, CA
the Journal, Issue #146
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