The Hometown Treasure February 2013 | Page 59

Healthy W hile February is the month of love and valentines, it’s also Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. However, there really isn’t much difference. Teens in unhealthy relationships don’t recognize controlling, manipulating or possessive behavior as unhealthy. They rationalize it as love. One out of every four teenagers will be involved in some type of abusive relationship. Dating violence, like domestic violence, includes physical, emotional, sexual, or mental abuse. For today’s teens, this also involves digital dating violence (intimidating, harassing behavior by a dating partner through social media, phones, or digital devices.) It’s real. It needs to be talked about. Kids need to know how to navigate through it and parents need to know how to assist them. The past two years, Elijah Haven Crisis Intervention Center has been providing Teen Dating Violence education in LaGrange County Schools through health classes and The Outrage, a drama about teen dating violence performed by area teens. Last spring, The Outrage was performed in Hearts ?Healthy Homes by Brenda Yoder, MA, Education & Prevention Advocate for Elijah Haven Crisis Intervention Center all three public high schools and they have been asked to return this month. The Outrage will be performed at The Howe School on February 20, Westview Jr-Sr High School on February 22, Lakeland High School on February 26, and Prairie Heights High School on March 8. There will be a public performance in March. Some warning signs of teen dating violence include: • A partner says he/she can’t live without you. • He/she threatens to hurt themselves if you break up with them. • He/she pressures you into any type of sexual behavior. • She/he humiliates you or belittles your opinions. • She/he is constantly checking up on you, texting you, asking where you have been/what you’ve been doing. • He/she asks you to take sexual photos and posts them on social media or sends them to friends. • She/he physically hurts you – even one time. • She/he insults you or humiliates you in front of your peers or friends. $10 Off Coupon for New Clients Visit us at Keepingtabs.us or see US on facebook Call for a free quote today! 260.768.4760 • He/she forces you to choose to be with them instead of your family or friends. • When they get angry, he/she calls you names, swears at you, kicks, hits, or pushes you. • You’re frightened of him/her and worry about how they’ll react to the things you say or do. • He/she wants you to be available to them at all times. • He/she constantly threatens to break up with you or accuses you of planning to break up with them. If you or someone you know is in a relationship like this, don’t brush it off or think it will change. Teens in relationships that are abusive even as young as middle school tend to repeat those relationships into marriage. Develop a safety plan, tell an adult you trust, call a national hotline 1-866331-9474, visit www.loveisnotabuse. org, www.breakthecycle.org, or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-HOPE (4673). If you or someone you know is in an adult relationship involving similar types of abuse, call Elijah Haven Crisis Intervention Center at 260-463-8700. Love is not abuse. Individual & Business Tax Preparation This is an invitation to come see us at our offices in the Troyer Saddlery building. We are located across the hall from Country Corral Restaurant. Let us put 15 years of accounting & 10 years of tax prep experience to work for you. We offer tax prep for individual & business (including S-Corps & LLCs), as well as full service accounting & payroll services. 260 D North Village Dr. • Shipshewana, IN 46565 • www.keepingtabs.us Office: 260.768.4760 or 260.768.7198 • Fax: 260.768.4763 The Hometown Treasure · February ‘13 · pg 57