embodied in masculine energy. Conversely, any action (masculine energy) is doomed to failure if it is not based on an idea.
Before, the perception was such that a woman and a man were two separate halves that operated as a whole and were complementary to each other. Now, with the change in lifestyles it’s a completely different picture where these two energies are interjected into each of us. They are equal and should be balanced with each other. Hence, the task facing each of us is not how to become a real woman or a real man, but how to become harmonious within and embrace femininity and masculinity, utilizing these qualities as needed.
I am often approached by women who are about to make major changes — whether it is opening a new business, divorce or leaving domestic violence, all things that bear fear and difficulty.
Metaphorically, they are about to enter a new territory that they may not how to react to. In these cases we apply their masculinity and develop their “sleeping” qualities, without which they would be unable to self-develop and defend themselves — qualities such as strength, courage, determination and discipline. As well, there may be an opposite request coming from strong and successful women who dream of finding a partner and building relationships. Due to their masculine qualities they may have difficulties and usually “crush” and “suppress” their potential partners. In this case we restore contact with their feminine side and expose tenderness, sensuality and empathy.
The same happens with men. With an excess of masculine energy, there is a “cutoff” from the creative impulse and from the “idea”, depriving them from a living stream of feelings and emotions. In one word, there is a misunderstanding of the concept of "What I really want, and what I really need." On the contrary, one-sided femininity in a man leads to a very dependent relationship — where a man lives with a woman not because he wants it, but because he cannot make a decision to leave the relationship. In this case we address the restoration of balance of feminine and masculine energies, and he learns to establish boundaries and determine his own desires.
Thus, a harmonious, free, loving, and creative person emerges — one who enters into a relationship with another person not in order to get something but to give something they can share, the highest form of themselves. NV
Naira Velumyan
PhD in Psychology,
www.academyofsocialcompetency.com
Toronto, Canada
(647) 460-3430