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gal Dear Readers, it: Eli Se cover cred L iving in the Middle East, we know very well about the existence of terrorists—those who intentionally harm innocent victims who are in the midst of going about their daily lives. The terrorists in Dr. Miriam Adahan’s feature this week are of a different kind. They may be veteran teachers or business owners, mothers of small children, husbands who are pillars of the community, or even a group of sixth grade children who judge one of their classmates to be inferior in their estimation. Unfortunately, the practice of judging others because they are different or haven’t lived up to certain expectations is so widespread that it’s become acceptable behavior. When a child is branded as a failure by a teacher or school system, when a young woman is reduced to the name of the seminar she attends or her dress size, or a parent resorts to ugly name calling or brutal comparisons, these acts of terror leave emotional wounds that can, unfortunately, last a lifetime. And by internalizing these voices of shame, blame, and unrelenting criticism, many of us may be terrorizing ourselves long after the terrorist has left the scene. Tzaddikim say that the world is a mirror; the external world reflects what is happening inside of us. If we can heal and fix what is broken inside, then that fixing will be reflected in the world outside of us. If we can stop terrorizing with unfair judgments in words and actions, if we can turn with love and acceptance towards our children, our spouses, our students, our fellow Jews, and ourselves, we will see a dramatic change for the good in our own immediate world and perhaps even in the world beyond. Publisher THE ENGLISH UPDATE Managing Editor Varda Branfman Contributing Writers Meira Cantor, Yosef Shapiro, Rose Jacobson, Tzirel Chana, Vardah Littmann, Chana Rubin Graphics chayamurik.com Update Ads Daniella Kirsch Distribution ‫אפי לקס‬ 054-221-1833 © THE ENGLISH UPDATE, 2012. THE ENGLISH UPDATE is not responsible for the content or reliability of the articles, advertisements, book reviews, or other material, nor the kashrus of products or services. All political advertisements are the responsibility of and sponsored by the political parties represented. To advertise in Have a beautiful Shabbos. Varda Branfman THE ENGLISH UPDATE [email protected] THE ENGLISH UPDATE ‫לפרסום במגזין‬ Re ta pu tion for Good Taste and Fine Qu ali ty MAADANEI ZAHAV CALL: 02 801-8001 [email protected] 5 Malachi Street, Geula 02.537.8342 Kosher l'mehadrin Platters for simchos Selection of wines and liquers Seven layer cake Antwerp Over 100 + salads Cholent Full fresh deli 6:15 TH ERA IE S IN IL Y UD F OR ST PY MA A RRIAGE & F M ta pu tion pick up The English Update here every week! Selection of wines and for Good Taste and Fine liquers 5 Malachi Street, Geula, Yerushalayim. phone [phone] Seven layer cake *(Limit 200 customers or while supply lasts) HAVDALAH(72 MIN) Re HAVDALAH(3 STARS) CANDLE LIGHTING R TE TH E 7:47 7:24 7:05 6:43 5:36 London Special offer for Deadline for readers: 7:57 7:32 6:25 Paris Mazal Tovs and Classifieds: *Your first time visiting Maadanei Zahav? 7:08 6:36 Bring in this New York ad and receive any two5:36 salads Monday afternoon 12 pm. for just one shekel each! 9:03 8:30 7:33 [email protected] Melbourne MAADANEI ZAHAV www.teu.co.il 6:55 5:11 When You Go To Haifa This Erev Shabbos, Remember… 6:20 Geulah Kosher l'mehadrin The Store Is On Rechov Malachi! 6:56 6:20 5:20 Maadanei Tel-Aviv Zahav R CE N Fresh, Delicious, Spotless… YN 6:59 6:19 100 + salads 5:05 Platters Jerusalem for simchos Over Qu ali ty Cholent Full fresh deli K sel hdi ohr' aSpecial offer for me r n readers: Your first time visiting Maadanei Zahav? R p t in o Go d atad ie a t in this ad and receive any two salads eua o fr o T s n Fn Quly t e i Bring for just one shekel each! (SUBSIDISED COUNSELING AVAILABLE) IGUD YANAR MARRIAGE & FAMILY HOTLINE [phone] * Whenm 5 l h Sre Gel Yrsa y You Go To Geulah This Erev Shabbos, Remember… Ma ci t t ua euhl i a e, ,